Try a Little Self Confidence for Happy Holidays


Many of us who struggle with negative body image dread the days that are upon us. All the holiday gatherings mean finding clothes to wear, seeing people (relatives!) whom we haven’t seen for a while perhaps, facing down tables laden with food we often feel a bit fearful of. But it doesn’t have to be this way. If we begin the season thinking about ourselves differently, it can make a world of difference in how we enjoy them.

An e-letter arrived this week from one of my favorite sites, Daily OM, that talked about self confidence and how we compare ourselves to others. And, of course, that’s what goes on when, while we’re feeling bad about ourselves, we walk into a room full of people whom we think are thinner, more successful, happier, etc., than we are. The bottom line according to the article: What we think we see in others is usually what they want us to see. If we looked more closely, we’d see they have imperfections, too. They’re human. The article calls the imperfections “glorious” and say they make us who we are. It also encourages us to appreciate our imperfections as our uniqueness, and notes that if we’re too busy comparing ourselves to others, we really can’t see what makes us unique.

Read the article yourself to get the full force of what they are saying. They do a much better job than what I did above. Then go out there and have a wonderful, happy and healthy holiday season!

4 responses to “Try a Little Self Confidence for Happy Holidays”

  1. Cintia EUA says:

    Thanks a lot for this! I’m getting ready to see relatives and friends I haven’t seen in 10 years. I can’t live up to their expectations and today I’m reminded that comparing myself to others is just not good. Thanks for the encouragement to be myself, to celebrate my accomplishments and just enjoy the holiday season!

  2. Marsha says:

    Glad this helped, Cintia. The message really spoke to me, too, when I got it from Daily OM.

    Happy Hanukkah to everyone (it started yesterday)!

  3. Jillian says:

    I find it difficult to be around a crowd this time of year. Since I have lost weight, every morsel I out into my mouth is monitored by someone who will comment. Even when it may be a healthy choice. It can be very depressing. I usually just smile and go in the other direction.

  4. marsha says:

    Hi, Jillian,

    Unfortunately, I doubt you are alone among people who have lost weight because losing weight is an achievement that many folks are interested in (sometimes for themselves — appropriately or inappropriately — and sometimes for others –inappropriately. Does that make sense?). I think you’re got the right approach by just ignoring the comments and doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. The less we pay attention to what others say, the better we can tune in to what we really need and want.

    all the best,

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If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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