Swimsuit Season: Try on Self Compassion


girl swimmingMemorial Day, officially founded to remember the sacrifices by those in the military who have died while serving their country, has unofficially come to mark the beginning of swimsuit season. As well as the calendar date many women have circled in red for when they want to be “bikini ready.”

As it often goes with “diet mentality,” if we’re not a certain weight or size by that date, then we’re not satisfied with our bodies or how we look when we put on our swimsuits.

This year, we suggest trying on self compassion, regardless of the size you are now. Focusing on your body with self compassion is often one of the most difficult paths to negotiate when moving toward self acceptance or when wearing a swimsuit, but it’s a tool that can move you away from the negative body feelings in the moment.

Consider this:

  • People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. This information is from the NY Times article entitled Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges by Tara Parker-Pope.
  • Dr. Kristin Neff from the University of Texas at Austin has published a book called Self-Compassion:Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. Her research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health.

A first step may be increasing compassion towards someone else and then move onto yourself.

Here are some guidelines:

  • Ask: How do I know when I am feeling compassionate towards someone else?
  • Ask: What would I say to someone else if I wanted to express compassion toward them?
  • Say to yourself, “Just for a moment I will let the judgment about my body go and focus on a part of my body I like.”
  • Reflect on how your body feels when it is moving and find one small thing to appreciate about that.

So when you put your swimsuit on, or even think about putting your swimsuit on, bring self compassion to your body and kindness to yourself.

What could you say to yourself from a place of self compassion right now?

One response to “Swimsuit Season: Try on Self Compassion”

  1. Harriet Krivit says:

    I do have compassion for myself because I never chose this and I’ve worked hard at everything in my long life to reach for sensible help of all kinds. And,of all addictive behaviors I still have continue eating food. And for my painful struggle.

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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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