Great big resolutions, long lists of intentions, sweeping goals make us feel good. The bigger and more ambitious, the better. The more intense the cleanse or detox the more virtuous and excited we feel. In the moment.
There’s something a little sexy, maybe a bit daring about imagining taking such a big leap. We’ve all done it, all been there.
In the moment we declare those huge changes we’re about to make, right around this time of year, whether it’s on paper, in our minds, or to a friend… we get a little “hit” of relief. Just from making the decision.
When it comes time to try to make good on such big resolutions, we all know how it ends. No need to go there.
What if you did it differently this time around?
Like game-changer different? You can still get the relief (especially knowing you don’t have to try to stick to some crazy over-the-top scheme).
Put the perfectionism to bed. You know her – the one always whispering to you that you’re not enough, that you haven’t done enough, that something or someone isn’t good enough.
Pick one thing. One lovely action. Specific and small. And if you’re getting squirmy at the word “small,” or rolling your eyes at the thought of paring it down, maybe you could have a little talk with yourself.
Because taking things in small steps is easier. You can stick to it. You can actually do it… and keep doing it. You can feel like a success. You can build some momentum, get some traction… with none of the misery of the old ways.
Because let’s face it, there was a little misery – at not being able to stick to your resolution, not getting the results because you took too much on too fast, the maybe not-so-nice names you called yourself as a result.
Focus on ONE new behavior
Today I spoke with a Green Mountain client via Skype, a past participant who’s keeping the momentum going at home.
Her willingness to shift into the one-action-at-a-time paradigm is serving her incredibly well. We focus on one new behavior… either modifying it, softening it, adding to it… you get the idea. It could be adding 5 minutes of meditation as a beginning. It could be going to bed 15 minutes earlier. It might be finding one new vegetable to eat this week.
Small is good. It’s fun. It’s powerful. It’s doable. You might wanna try it!!
What about you? Any ideas about what you might try to create some forward movement in ways that feel good without any of the crash and burn? Tell us in the comments below.
Wishing everyone a peaceful healthy holiday season and New Year.