Setting Resolutions to Take Care of Myself

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“Inhaling up…exhaling into forward fold,” I instructed my yoga class.

As I leaned into the bent over position, I noticed my gnarly toenails and hairy legs. This observation sent me into a soul-searching journey wondering when the last time was that I took care of myself.

self-care quoteAre You Putting Yourself Last?

I began to realize how often I bumped myself to the back of the line, behind my children, boyfriend, and housework.

I observed myself making the excuse that I can’t paint my nails because there is laundry to fold. That I can’t sit down and read that juicy novel because I should clean my house first. That I can’t spend Sunday afternoons by myself meditating or taking a class because that would hurt my boyfriend’s feelings.

How To Make Self-Care A Priority

This new revelation had my head spinning as to how I was going to begin to make myself a priority.

I recalled hearing someone say many years ago that women are often unhappy because they don’t know what they want. They only know what they don’t want.

So I made a list of all the things that made me happy. They were pretty simple:

  • I liked lighting candles
  • having a glass of red wine at the end of the day
  • eating a really great dessert
  • doing a fun activity with my children
  • taking someone else’s yoga class
  • having a girls night out, etc.

I also recognized that although I didn’t enjoy activities such as cleaning out my car, I did like it when my car was clean.

Knowing that it was a way to honor myself, I started to incorporate more of those things. As I’m tucking in my kids, I will sometimes pour myself a cup of warm chamomile tea and know that it is for me.

My Solution? Self-Care Saturdays!

I also came up with a solution of “Self-Care Saturdays” where I will do something for myself once a month. (Yes, I know that once a month sounds small, but baby steps!)

This is something a little more significant like a manicure, a visit to an old friend that I’ve been putting off for years, and a playdate with some girlfriends.

At times this process can feel a little selfish. I just have to remind myself that when I take care of myself first, I can take better care of others.

I have become less resentful and found it is so much easier to give wholeheartedly because I feel more fulfilled. I’ve even begun asking the children to help out a little more around the house – like helping to set the table or put clean dishes away.

So, reader, my question for you: What makes you happy? What are you going to do to take care of yourself today?


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About the Author

Lori Wright

Lori spent her teens and twenties with self-loathing and body issues, but changed her life after discovering yoga. She feels that yoga helped her become a better mother, lover and human being. She became less judgmental against herself and others. Finding ways to bring humor and self-compassion into movement activities, Lori’s mission is to help others fall in love with fitness while taking care of the body they have today. Lori uses mindfulness tools such as meditation and positive affirmations as well as running to de-stress to support her in raising her two young daughters. Lori has recently received her certification in Curvy Yoga, a certification designed to encourage and support women of all sizes and shapes to reap the wonderful benefits of Yoga. She utilizes this certification to instruct Curvy Yoga classes at Green Mountain At Fox Run.

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