“It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood, a beautiful day for a neighbor,
Would you be mine?
Could you be mine?
Won’t you be my neighbor?”
Do you remember this little snippet of a song? The song from Mr. Rogers Neighborhood?
How is it possible that our neighbors and our neighborhood can be connected to our weight?
Let me clarify…I’m not talking about your next door neighbor here, or even how close you live to a Whole Foods supermarket. I am talking about the neighborhood you have living in your own head.
Mean Neighbors & Negative Self-Talk
Are your head neighbors mean? Do they…
- Judge your actions?
- Criticize your choices?
- Tell you that you are stupid? Lazy?
- Tell you that you will never be good enough?
- Make sure you know how disappointed they are in you?
This whole neighborhood of mean, judgmental, shaming, criticizing people who just won’t leave you alone…even if you ask them to, even if you don’t want to listen, even if you try to shut the door on their face, they persist.
They stay there…living in your head.
Their voices are loud.
Their voices are shaming.
They are relentless.
And, they are very good at what they do. They have had many years of practice.
Their talk creates fear inside of us. This fear enlists cortisol, the hormone that is released in times of stress. Studies show that high levels of cortisol contribute to weight struggles.
Their talk increases the judgment of yourself, your body, your thoughts and your actions.This also increases your stress level. Cortisol again.
Their talk creates shame and self-loathing, it decreases self-esteem and self-worth.
This can reflect in the choices that you make.
- Staying in bed
- Isolating yourself from your family and friends
- Not doing things you enjoy
- Numbing your emotions with food
ALL OF THIS CAN AFFECT your HEALTH…and by proxy, YOUR WEIGHT!
Why is it that you decide to keep these neighbors living in your head with you? Why haven’t you moved them out yet? Said “HASTA LA VISTA?”
IT’S YOUR HEAD, ISN’T IT? NOT THEIRS!
It is almost as if these neighbors have become your employees and you’ve kept them on the payroll.
Haven’t you paid them enough already?
Isn’t it time to fire them?
I sent my neighbors away to an exclusive upscale retirement community in Florida, they have enough money to live there very comfortably for years…
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Isn’t it time for a CHANGE?
A change in these employees you keep around?
Change in thoughts
Change in opinions
Change in neighbors…
Are you willing to bring in new neighbors?
Invite them to live in this headspace that is uniquely yours?
With specific requirements, of course… that they be:
Change the voices from judgmental to supportive. From mean to kind, degrading to encouraging, criticizing to compassionate…
Imagine having intelligent, kind and compassionate conversations, encouraging and supportive words and uplifting messages going on inside your head. How would that make you feel?
Changing your neighbors, choosing your thoughts, creating a safe environment, decreasing fear and allowing kindness and compassion to enter your head can help increase your self-esteem, your body image, your self-worth and have an impact on your health.
Choices become just that, a choice to eat this or that, a choice to say yes or no, a choice to listen or not, a choice without shame or judgment.
Finally, a choice that is not accompanied with a critical voice.
This safe space that you create can encourage choices that take special care of you, because you are worth it, and yes, the neighbors you choose to keep in your head can have a direct impact on your health and weight.
“Would you be mine? Could you be mine? Won’t you be my neighbor?”