How to Navigate the In Between


Do you sometimes find yourself surviving rather than thriving in life – restlessly existing in what I call the “in- between”? In between what you want out of life compared to how your life actually looks?

Finding Self-Compassion While Striving For Change

Making Healthy Eating ChangesWe want more friends, more love, a better job, a smaller waistline, more free time, less anxiety and more happiness. As a result there can be a magnetic pull into the thoughts that focus on how we are not enough. Why is that?

Why can’t we find compassion for the ‘here and now’ self while striving to embody the self we yearn for?

Being able to navigate this in between is half the battle when it comes to creating a healthier lifestyle because it involves letting go of old ways of doing things (think: diet mentality, negative self-talk) and taking a leap of faith into a new way of living.

That space in between the old and the new can feel scary. This fear is usually at the root of distrust in the process and/or distrust in Self to hang in there long enough to get to the other side.

For the women who leave Green Mountain with tools and strategies in hand – doubt often creeps in around whether they can continue to implement at home what they learned at Green Mountain.

But what if I fail? I’ve failed myself time and time again over the years, why would this time be any different?” 

Different Results With A Different Approach

And I tell them – because the approach is different. They are cultivating awareness of body and mind, they are tuning in to what middle ground feels like after years of the all or nothing approach with food and exercise.

The Middle Ground IS The In Between

Trying to find the ‘middle ground’ can feel nebulous in the beginning and nervousness is to be expected when we delve into the uncomfortable practice of being different.  This apprehension is simply a sign that we are moving out of the box – away from the old and into the new.

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5 Strategies to Bridge the Gap between Insight and Action

It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear . . . . It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.” — Marilyn Ferguson

Practice Carrying Yourself Into The Unknown

The practice of being different is what enables us to bridge that gap between insight and action around self-care. No one else can do it for us – WE have to carry ourselves into the unknown and that place can feel daunting. But it’s necessary. On the quest for a healthier lifestyle – it’s really about the quest to understand and know oneself better. So go ahead – feel the fear – but know that with enough practice you can – and will – come through to the other side.

2 responses to “How to Navigate the In Between”

  1. Beth Warner says:

    This truly is the hardest place to be. But I am grateful for the words from Erin about being in the moment and caring for one’s self as I move ahead. I look forward to arriving in September and being in the middle. Beth

  2. Erin Risius says:

    Hi Beth,
    Yes – the ‘in between’ can be a challenge for sure but it’s where the greatest gifts come from I find. I will see you in September!

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Erin Risius, MA, LPC

Erin Risius, MA, LPC, is a former program director of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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