Managing Stress: Discover Your Ambivalences


Today’s post is another by our psychologist-masters Darla Breckenridge, who has been with us only a few months but has already been named “The Strategy Lady” by the women who come to Green Mountain.  She also teaches our stress management classes.  It’s a dynamite combination.

woman seeking emotional supportSometimes the most difficult stress to deal with is created by ambivalence.  Should I quit my job or stay in it?   Should I leave my marriage?  Should I go to the party and feel awkward or should I stay home and feel lonely?   Should I keep my feelings hidden with unconscious eating or should I create space for myself to feel?

Feelings of being overwhelmed can come from positive situations like leaving on vacation or planning a wedding as well as difficult or negative situations.  But for many women, the core challenge to managing stress comes from the belief that others’ needs are more important than our own. How is it that we come to believe that our own needs are not important?  Is it possible to take care of ourselves the way that we take care of others?

The challenge of making time for ourselves in the swirl of life is the cornerstone of stress management.  Follow this process to begin to put together your plan for managing stress.

  1. Identify your stressors.
  2. Get clear about your ambivalences.
  3. Learn coping techniques such as developing a support network for long-term weight loss success and adding time for yourself on your to do list.

What is one strategy that you can use to manage a stressful situation this week?

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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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