As much as we know lots of things on an intellectual level, when push comes to shove (and sometimes it really does feel like that), what we know can go missing… Gone baby gone.
People that know me know that I have just undergone more than a few life transitions. Big ones.
- Downsized from our family home now that my kids are both in college, which makes me officially an empty nester.
- Leaving the house, land and town where we raised them. Also left Massachusetts, where I’ve lived my entire life (over 50 years if you don’t count college). I never thought I would move, but did, to another small town filled with artists and galleries and great restaurants. All good if you don’t count leaving all the friends, family, and everything familiar.
- Coming to Green Mountain! After being an entrepreneur in private practice for over 20 years, I never thought I’d work for anyone ever again. And yet this was too good to pass up. As the saying goes “never say never.”
- This has also meant leaving home (that new one… the one we just moved to). Tuesday mornings you’ll find me on a country road around 7 a.m. driving the 70 miles to spend a few days in Vermont.
Sometimes I feel like I’m living a double life. If it’s Monday this must be New Hampshire. If it’s Thursday, it must be Vermont.
These kinds of changes of course equal discomfort. Even exciting changes can still be disruptive. Our brains don’t love change, they like predictable and familiar most of the time.
I believe that any of us who have used food to cope also have challenges staying grounded. We tend to feel things very deeply and can get easily overwhelmed by feeling “too much,” by trying to pull it all together, by putting all sorts of pressure on ourselves to keep it all together, which is generally a pretty tall order. Add to this any big changes and the stress becomes overwhelming.
What I have always counted on to help me cope, now more than ever, are what I call the Daily Essentials. These are the daily practices of self care, whether I am here or there, or still having moments of feeling disoriented (where’s the market, what’s our area code, what are we DOING here?!), that help support me as I move through these life transitions.
Stay tuned for what I consider my daily essentials next week, but in the meantime, what do you consider yours?