If I Lose Weight (When I’m…Then I’ll…)


What’s on your list of things you’ll do or be when you get to that “ideal” vision of yourself? Here are a few we’ve heard from women here at Green Mountain at Fox Run:

“When I lose ___ pounds, then I’ll”:

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  • find a partner
  • play that sport I used to like
  • wear a bathing suit on vacation
  • actually GO on vacation
  • try a 5K
  • go horse back riding
  • go for that promotion
  • buy clothes I like
  • accept invitations from friends
  • be happy

How many of these thoughts, or more just like them, have we had over the years? All too often, plans are put on hold until we hit that magical number on the scale. It doesn’t matter if that number is realistic or not, if we’ve ever been at that weight in the past, or if we think life won’t be a bowl of cherries until we look different.

So how long have you been waiting?

What have you held off doing? How many times have you said no, when deep in your heart you really wanted to say yes? Most importantly…WHY?

We want you to #BeHerNow! Stop waiting. Stop putting your life on hold. Stop saying no. There are no certainties in life, including when it comes to weight. We don’t know when our last day will come, and we certainly don’t know if getting to that magical number will finally allow us to start living.

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So why not live now?

Go on that vacation. Put on that suit. Sign up for a 5k. The magic that comes from BEing Her Now and fully living the life you deserve is actually the best way to get to that future vision of ourselves.

If you ask yourself why you want to lose weight, you’ll get to a deeper-rooted matter that’s more valuable to you – it’s about good relationships, good living, and health. It’s not always about vanity. So go there – directly. Accept invitations, and you’ll be more connected in your relationships. Take notice of everything that’s around you at that pool party, and it doesn’t have to be all about body shame.

Reframe the sentence.

Consider reframing the sentence from “When I…Then I’ll”, to “As I (ex: go out with friends), then I’m (ex: nourishing my relationships)”.

Now is the time to be good to yourself, be with the people you love, do the things you’ve dreamed of, and appreciate every moment you are alive.

Consider what, if any, plans you’ve put off because you feel you need to lose weight first. There are plenty of things we can do now, regardless of whether or not we are at our goal weight.

3 responses to “If I Lose Weight (When I’m…Then I’ll…)”

  1. Deborah says:

    I’ve put off a heap. The worst one… I’d meet the man of my dreams and fall in love (and he would fall in love with me). I’m now 44 and still very overweight. And single.

  2. Christina says:

    I am just wrapping up my divorce and am feeling that I need to wait until I am at a healthier weight to date but I know that’s stinking thinking! I have two friends that are healthy weights and they are divorced too! I have put off learning to swim because of the bathing suit issue. . . but taking swimming lessons is going to be my new year’s goal!

  3. Robyn says:

    Thanks for commenting, ladies. Marriages are always challenging, “healthy” weight or not and we could always find something to be self-conscious about when dating or putting on a bathing suit. I understand all of these concerns and I hope you feel brave enough to go after what makes you happy. Christina, I’m excited for you about the swimming lessons. I know you’ll have fun!

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Shiri Macri, MA, LCMHC

Since 2004, Shiri’s approach as a therapist for treating binge and emotional eating is holistic, focusing not only on the presented issue at hand but also considering overall health. Working in this way often includes mindfulness-based approaches. Now as a trained MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) teacher, Shiri’s love of mindfulness and meditation practices are at the forefront of her blog writings and recordings. Shiri is the Clinical Director at the Women's Center for Binge & Emotional Eating, affiliated with Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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