We’ve all been there — we’re going along in the direction we want to go, then life happens. In today’s post, Beth tells us how she turned a common challenge for weight-worried women into a learning opportunity. It’s all good!
Why Perfection Sabotages Your Health Efforts
I haven’t been posting recently because I was driving across the country with my 22-year-old daughter, from Philadelphia to Aspen. Lily has been living there since last spring and she wanted to get her car packed with clothing and ski equipment out there. So Mom to the rescue. There were some tense moments involving Lily’s lousy driving skills but we arrived with the car, its contents and our good relationship intact.
Planning For Nutrition And Exercise On The Road
Our goal was to get there as quickly as possible so we loaded up a cooler with snacks and munchies that would satisfy us well enough that we need not stop for meals. We took protein bars, fruit, nuts, some deli meats and plenty of water. My on-the-road, easy-to-eat, but slightly off version of the plate model.
As for exercise, the only muscles that got a work-out were the ones in my right leg as I thrust it forward in the passenger seat to engage the imaginary brake pedal. Well, maybe my right hand too as it clenched the armrest. We drove 9 to 10 hours a day, checked in to a hotel, grabbed dinner and went to bed.
The Reality Of My Food Choices
I’d like to say that my eating choices on this trip were because we stopped at road side truck stops and greasy diners but that would be lying. We drove into major cities and ate at great restaurants in Cincinnati, Kansas City and Denver. But still, my choices were questionable. Lots and lots of cheese during our nightly Scrabble game (Lily and I are hard-core Scrabble players) and devil-may-care food choices for dinner.
This went on for 2000 miles! Several times I commented to my daughter that I wasn’t feeling great with my food choices and lack of activity and she repeated that mantra of any 22 year old on a road trip: “Mom, get over it! This is an adventure! We’re on vacation!”
And so I let it go. I gave into wild abandon across 5 states.
Then I flew home.
Healthy Eating: It’s A Journey
Okay, trip’s over, now it’s time to reflect, examine and find the learning information.
- I knew that the scale would show a rise in my weight so that was not a shocker.
- I had successfully not given in to self-loathing during the trip so that was a success.
- I felt out of sorts and that my body needed to get back on track with both healthier eating and physical exercise so that was eye-opening in that that my body was giving me cues that I was able to realize and act upon.
All good stuff, right?
What I didn’t expect to learn (but am sure glad that I did) is that I still have a long way to go in completely internalizing a healthy approach to food which includes letting it go sometimes, as my daughter suggested.
The Diet Mentality Strikes Again
I realized that, despite my supposition of the opposite, I was still thinking of my new Green Mountain-learned behaviors as a diet.
Yup, that dirty D word.
Convinced that I had left that mentality behind in the Vermont hills, it had been there all along. When Lily and I left the driveway and headed west, my brain said, “Whoopee! Girl trip! Just skip the diet and worry about it later!”
Diet mentality was lurking there all along. It’s a powerful thing and I have a lifetime of thinking that way. I have always been either on one or off one and my eating patterns were always defined by where I was in that destructive yo-yo cycle.
I could have made better food choices on this trip. I could have gotten some exercise in as well.
But I didn’t.
Imperfection: It’s Part Of An Overall Healthy Eating Approach
I can’t look back at those choices, though as anything but that, choices made during a wonderful adventure with my daughter.
Sometimes life offers you the structure to make better choices than at other times. That’s okay. It’s all part and parcel of an overall healthy approach to food and health, not a diet failure. That’s a tough concept for a life-long yo-yo dieter to wrap her head around but I’m working on it.
Road trip, anyone? How do you feel about your own food choices when you travel? Tell us!
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