Rituals help us make transitions when we experience losses:
- memorials/celebration of life
- divorce celebration
- going-away parties
- retirement parties
Some would say that rituals clearly mark and, therefore, help with transitions. However, we don’t have rituals for a friendship that fizzles or comes to an abrupt end, whether you choose to end it or your friend does. And often these losses can be very difficult to recover from.
Think about what kind of support will be helpful to you.
You may have found it’s important to choose just the right friend or family member or even a stranger to talk it out or cry with when you are experiencing loss or grief.
What might you want from that person?
- Simply listen and commiserate
- Talk sense to you
- Help you see your role in the ending
- Make the other person into a creep
Grief and sadness are a natural part of losing someone from our lives.
Big feelings can be an invitation to use food to cope. Binge eating can be the result of not knowing how to process the grief. Moving from your feelings into your thinking can be first step.
Questions can invite you to move towards thinking.
- What have I had to learn/unlearn/relearn as a result of the loss?
- What voids do I need to fill?
- What routines and habits no longer served me?
What have you had to learn or unlearn from a relationship ending?