Finding Motivation


There’s been a lot written about finding motivation. If you feel the need to make some changes in your life, finding motivation is key to getting started. Lets face it, it’s easy enough to accept intellectually that a change is needed, but knowing doesn’t necessarily get us off the couch, out of the frig late at night, or create more quality time to spend with our family.

So why is finding true motivation so elusive? That feeling which makes you want to hop out of bed in the morning and dust off your walking shoes? Maybe you’re going about it all catty wompus. One theory regarding getting started comes from an idea based on the five stages of change. This theory states that if you’re on a journey to change behavior, but begin in the wrong stage of change, you’re likely to fail.

Here are the 5 changes:

• The first stage is pre-contemplative, when you’re likely to dismiss the idea of change outright.
• The second is contemplative, when you begin thinking about how the change would actually fit into your life.
• The third stage is when you take action, and
• The final stage is maintenance, when the new behavior becomes a habit.
• Maintenance, the ability to maintain the new status quo.

Of course, within this model there’s relapse. Relapse is likely to occur at least once if not a few times throughout the 5 stages of the process. Think of it like falling off a horse — the best thing you can do is get right back on again. However, if you do “fall off the horse” and relapse, it is important that you do not fall back to the pre-contemplation or contemplation stages. Rather, restart the process again at preparation, action or even the maintenance stages.

Just remember, everyone relapses. Its called being human!

One response to “Finding Motivation”

  1. Gail Glickman says:

    On August 12th and 13th I will be participating in the “Out of the Darkness” overnight. This overnight is being sponsored by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and takes place only in Chicago and San Francisco.
    I have know three people that have “suicided,” and I am rather passionate about this cause. There is also a large correlation between depression and eating disorders, and all the awareness that can be raised for suicide prevention is another success in treating depression.

    I am doing the Chicago event, and the name of my team is “Team Reggi Marder.” As I have told others, any contribution you can make will be appreciated, but if you cannot contribute financially at this time, please review your own list of friends, and think about anyone who may need support. Just picking up the phone may be the help someone else needs. If you are in need of support, please reach out and ask, I have heard “if only” so many times over the years, please give someone the chance to be there for you.

    I have recently been asked to take over the Presidency of the Chicago Board of Directors of the National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD), which is based here in Chicago. I lead a successful fundraiser for the organization in June, and look forward to additional leadership responsibilities going forward. If, as part of dealing with an eating disorder, you would like a referral to either a therapist or a support group in your area, please call the ANAD office, and ask. They can be reached at (847) 831-3438. I think we are all aware that things work especially well while we are at Green Mountain, and the hardest part comes in integrating all of the great lessons in our home environment.
    As part of our event in June, we had Leslie Goldman, author of “Locker Room Diaries, the Naked Truth About Women, Body Image, and Re-Imagining the ‘Perfect’ Body as our keynote speaker. We have extra copies of her book, and if you would like us to send it to you, please send a check for $25.00, plus $3.00 for shippping and handling to ANAD, P.O. Box 7, Highland Park, Il 60035.

    Thanks, and best wishes to everyone,

    Gail (a.k.a. Skippy Glick)

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