“I can’t believe I ate all those M&M’s!”
“I ate so bad over the weekend! I will start my diet Monday.”
“I am going to have to stay on the treadmill an extra hour because of that lunch!”
“I have no Willpower at all!”
These are words I have said to myself or have overheard in line at the grocery store or at the table next to me as I eat dinner. Our inner Judge Foody is scolding us, and letting us know how unworthy we are…letting us know that we cannot be trusted when it comes to our food choices.
These voices in our heads have had much practice. We have distinct perceptions and beliefs about what is Right or Wrong with the food choices we make. These perceptions and beliefs started long ago and have gained strength through the experiences we have had.
When we eat good foods and are “being good”, all is well. We are on track, worthy and feel empowered; yet when we eat “bad foods”, we begin an all-out war with ourselves. We make sure that we hear how much of a disappointment we are to ourselves and how we cannot be trusted with our food choices.
This voice, our inner Judge Foody, thinks things like this:
- We need to punish ourselves with exercise for sharing dessert with a friend.
- A morning step on the scale (followed by a couple steps off and on to reposition and try again), dictates our mood for the rest of the day.
- We need to vow not to eat tomorrow, due to all the “bad” food we ate today at the office party.
Does this all sound familiar to you?
Aren’t you tired of listening to this judge? You are not a bad person for eating a bag of M&M’s. As a matter of fact, I personally think the M&M people are very cute and entertaining (even a judge can see that right?).
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Here are some facts…
Food has two purposes:
- Food is Fuel…we need it to keep us going, to keep our energy up and keep our brains and bodies working. It is needed for us to make a difference with our work, to enjoy a walk in nature, to connect with friends, carry the groceries, rearrange furniture (a fun trait I get from my mom, that drives everyone else crazy!), to write, to stretch…
- Food is to be Enjoyed…it is part of living, sharing, connecting, and fulfilling traditions.
Foods are not “Good” or “Bad” AND you are not “Good” or “Bad” due to the food choices you make.
This life we live it too short to continue to employ this Food Judge any longer. We have continued to give her way too much power. She has criticized our choices, dictated our actions, and scolded and shamed us into depression, addiction and abuse.
It is time to FIRE the judge, throw away the scale and begin to trust ourselves.
It is time to hire ourselves a new upbeat, positive personal assistant instead. One that treats us with respect and admiration. One that does not criticize our choices for dinner, but sits down to enjoy and treasure the moment with us.
This article was originally published as Judge Foody (Not to be confused with Judge Judy) on Friday, March 13, 2015.