Developing a Healthy Relationship with Your Kitchen


I had a wonderful weekend at home.  My schedule of late has been nothing but travel.  But this weekend, I spent my time puttering, trying to put some order to the chaos of my home, which includes piles of paper that define my home working area and which continually encroach on other areas.  While I did that, my husband cooked.

He’s only discovered cooking in the last couple of years.  In the first almost two decades of our married life, we relied on my culinary talents to feed us.  In between raising two kids and working inside and outside the home, well, suffice it say that our culinary adventures weren’t always so adventurous.

Not so anymore.  Since Alan took over the reins, we’re treated regularly to gourmet meals, featuring quality ingredients that are cooked with care.  We’re new empty nesters as of last September.  That may sound like a nonsequitur but it’s about having the time to make such meals.  What a difference with the kids gone….  Gourmet meals aren’t required for healthy eating, however.  If you’re crammed for time, simple meals made from quality ingredients can be just as satisfying and are certainly as healthy.

So what was Alan cooking?  Lamb Vindaloo, Chicken Tikka Marsala, Aloo Gobhi (cauliflower and potatoes).  Using recipes from Jamie Oliver’s Jamie’s Food Revolution btw.  (It is a cookbook but I couldn’t find it on his site.  There are great recipes on it, though, so wanted to link to it.)

As many of you know, I’ve become devoted to helping people heal their physical selves using food as medicine, really nutrition as medicine.  All this food fits big time.  The type of food we used — lamb, which is always grass-fed, free-range chicken, organic — and spices/herbs like turmeric, ginger, garlic all contribute to the immense goodness of the meals he made.  Not to mention the love.  As I said, Alan has really gotten into cooking.

And, here is the big lesson for this post…he learned to cook by watching Food Network. (Although to sing my own praises, it does help that he has me nearby to answer questions.)  And the Food Network is just one of so many resources available to help us learn how to cook.

Do you have a healthy relationship with your kitchen? It’s just about as important as our relationship with food because it’s almost impossible to eat well if we eat out often.

7 responses to “Developing a Healthy Relationship with Your Kitchen”

  1. Miz says:

    and while I wanna make the ‘send me an ALAN!’ joke I oddly enjoy the kitchen duties!
    my husband is so easy and minimalistic in his fooddesires I find I want him to ask more of me in that realm (I KNOW!) so that I can help nurture his body along with his spirit.

  2. Marsha says:

    Miz — a fabulous idea — you in the kitchen. we’ve seen a lot of you there already but it’s usually demonstrating an exercise of some sort. 🙂 But I’m sure you already produce great meals.

    Kerry — I usually have to cook Thanksgiving dinner at my sister-in-law’s, who is just learning to cook. While it’s fun to be there for the togetherness, it’s not my favorite place to cook as I don’t have all my “things.” I love the fig and lemon balsamic vinegar you mention in your post. Sounds heavenly.

  3. love2eatinpa says:

    i do have a good relationship with my kitchen. i hope it grows when my kids are older and really eat the foods i cook and i don’t have to make things as “plain” as i do now.
    interestingly enough, a couple of years ago, we totally had our kitchen re-done, so we moved our kitchen table to the kids playroom. i had no oven or stove, but i used a microwave and toaster oven to prepare our meals. it took 8 whole months for the kitchen to be done (don’t ask!)! i refused to have us eating dinners out/getting take-out because we had no kitchen. i still wanted us to have heathy, homecooked meals and i pulled it off. 🙂

  4. I have a good relationship with my kitchen too. Like MizFit, I really enjoy creating with food (and the more I learn about functional medicine and food, the more I strive for meals that fit the bill), although I have to admit that I am not as “into it” as I once was. I find myself excited by other things (writing) lately and don’t have as much interest in cooking.

    I can totally see my husband Tim taking an interest in cooking in the years to come…it’s a challenge his engineering mind would enjoy, I think! As long as he had me nearby to ask advice 😉

  5. I think you know I love cooking in general, so my answer is, yes! 😉
    .-= Nutrition to Kitchen’s last blog post..Chicken Sausage, Eggplant and Roasted Bell Pepper Pizza =-.

  6. Michelle Cantrell says:

    Sounds delicious! I love cooking Indian food. I don’t do if often because my young children don’t like the heavy spices (try as I might to acclimate them to the spices!). But whenever my Dad comes to dinner, I cook Indian food because he is going through chemo, and the only thing he can really tastes with his dulled senses is Indian food. I have a great recipe for chicken vindaloo (from and some spicy muligatawny soup. 🙂

    I didn’t start really cooking until a few years ago. Prior to having kids, I didn’t invest the time because I was too tired after work. Then when my kids were really young I was too tired from, well, having young kids. Now that they are a little older, I am enjoying being in the kitchen more and more, and trying new things. My husband is a wonderful sport about it and gives me great praises on everything I make (which he seems to mean, judging by the fact that he eats it all up and then some).

  7. I love to cook, but when I don’t have a chance it’s definitely nice to have a husband who loves to cook too!
    .-= Nutritioulicious’s last blog post..nutritioulicious™ Live on WBAL Baltimore This Sunday =-.

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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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