While it is the season to be jolly, too often family and friends manage to cast a pall on things with comments that many of us are all too familiar with. I can remember relatives from my childhood at family gatherings calling me ‘endearing’ names like ‘marshmallow’ and wondering why I wasn’t as thin as my siblings.
My different body made me fair game for such hurtful comments, although I truly believe my relatives didn’t realize how damaging their comments were.
Fast forward to adult years and I can remember family whom I hadn’t seen for a while remarking on my appearance, the most recent one of which was a comment about a new wrinkle that had recently – and permanently – appeared on my forehead. Had I not moved on in my understanding of how to deal with such comments, I imagine it would have left me feeling pretty bad at a time that was supposed to be full of joy.
Our most recent article meant to help readers with healthy weight loss information looks at this problem. It lists several ways to ask for support from the people who matter to you, and who can sometimes hurt the most with their lack of awareness about how to really help you with your healthy living efforts.
But perhaps more importantly, it also suggests ways to change how we think about and react to cutting comments, unintended or otherwise.
Check out our article on ways to cope with family and friends during the holidays. We hope it will help make yours the best yet!
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You’ll be ok this holiday. I know it is easier said then done but just try to not let it get to you and enjoy the season.
Happy Holidays
Thanks for that comment, Nick. You’re right. It is about positive thinking!
best,
marsha