Compassionate listening-a gift to yourself and others


Compassion for those around us and for ourselves can  decrease stress during the holidays. At Green Mountain at Fox Run,  our healthy weight loss retreat in Vermont, we have been talking about how self compassion can decrease depression and negative self talk and increase communication in relationships.

Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. wrote an article on her blog entitled What Does Compassion Look Like?   and says that we can determine who is compassionate without even talking with themIn a study designed to determine what qualities a listener needs to be considered compassionate research suggests these three simple steps.

  • Listen with the whole body
  • Make soft eye contact with the intention of really seeing the speaker
  • Offer connecting gestures without interrupting the speaker to share your own comments or stories

“Simple—but not always easy to do when we’re distracted, busy, or stressed out ourselves. This approach to compassionate listening can be a tremendous gift to the person who is talking, and to ourselves. It helps us stay grounded in the present moment, and more fully receive the gift of another person sharing his or her experience with us” says McGonigal.

The intention you bring to your thoughts and behaviors really does make a difference in outcomes.

How can compassionate listening be a gift you could give to the people at work or at home who push your buttons and invite stress to arise during this holiday season. ?

One response to “Compassionate listening-a gift to yourself and others”

  1. health says:

    I want to become a fitness trainer but I’m a bodybuilder so I focus more on heavy weights low reps. Can you become a fitness trainer just for building muscle only? I don’t do cardio at all!!! and do you need some sort of certification to become a fitness trainer becuase I’ve been bodybuilding for 3 years and know the different muscle groups and the machines. And how much should a fitness trainer charge I hear they get paid well.

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If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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