Typically on this blog we talk about changing our own negative self-talk. Many of us have had a life filled with insults, criticism and jokes about our size and/or weight. The sad thing is, most of that haranguing comes from within. It’s the age old cop out, ‘if I say it first, no one will think I don’t know I’m fat, and therefore they can’t hurt me.’
Newsflash, it still hurts.
Negative self talk is dangerous and damaging – and very hard to exorcise the longer you do it. Done enough times, it creates a belief system which is ingrained and based purely on your own false perception of yourself.
Now, on top of our own negative self-talk, we have to contend with a more aggressive form of body bashing – ever heard of ‘body snarking’? In a recent Wall Street Journal article written by Hannah Seligson, this new term (at least for me) was being bantered around. In a nutshell, body snarking is what girls have done for decades, make fun of the less attractive, chubbier, shorter, taller, badly dressed and unpopular – behind their backs. Only now, with the huge popularity of facebook and myspace, this offensive and self-esteem murdering behavior can be done for the whole world to see – and apparently with relish.
Apparently, Gawker owned Jezebel is taking a stand against body snarking , which I think is a start. However, hasn’t Gawker been a bashing, rumor mongering site since its inception? I guess you have to start somewhere.
Check out Seligson’s article here. If you’re like me – you’ll cringe.