Do Something Different, Be Your Own Valentine


candy hearts loving sayingsValentine’s Day is quite popularly known as a day of bingeing, not necessarily on food, but on feelings (although a fair amount of chocolate is famously involved).

For single ladies, which I have been many years in a row, sometimes the feelings can lead to the hunt for a food outlet, and for those of us involved with a partner, we might fear that decadent desserts can become the rule, not the exception.

The thing we all have in common? Our strength to keep a seven-heartbreak pileup or a showdown with an entire box of Whitman’s at arms length, away from our hearts and our stomachs.

Instead of mourning our single state, or unloading expectations on our significant other to make Valentine’s Day special this year, how about we do something different this year and rely on ourselves? Easier said than done, but more possible than any of us allow ourselves to believe.

We are women and we have the power to make ourselves feel as special and important on this day, as we do on the other 364 days of the year. For the brave and motivated men reading this blog, I’m not counting you out here – hold your heart and join us on this journey to self-love today.

We celebrate ourselves on our birthdays – way to go self, you’re pretty awesome just for being born. Why can’t we celebrate and love ourselves on V-Day instead of labeling it another D-Day?

What’s the point? How do we do it? The point is that we’re worth it – the chocolate treat, the bouquet of flowers, the hot bath and some candlelight. We do it by celebrating not our birth, but our existence.

Valentine’s Day is all about love, but who’s to say what defines the kind of love we give or receive today? Self-love is by far the heaviest burden for selfless women struggling with confidence issues – I am one of them. But if we don’t love ourselves, what kind of example are we setting for our future partners or our current ones?

Remember to be your own Valentine today. Even if we think Cupid missed us, he got us with a double-edged arrow… and chose us for ourselves. Let us own the privilege to make ourselves happy today.

Here are some beautiful mantras to remind us today.

“When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is easier.” – Diane Von Furstenberg

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Steve Maraboli

“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.” – Brene Brown

“Self-love is the elixir of an immortal heart.” – Amy Leigh Mercree

“Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.” – Golda Poretsky

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Jacki Monaco

Jacki (or Jace) is a Green Mountain alum that shares experiences with binge eating disorder through "The Binge Eating Diaries” series. Follow Jacki as she shares the discoveries she’s made on her journey to health and happiness.

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