All Or Nothing – The Truth About Motivation


“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” ~ Mark Victor Hansen

We couldn’t have said it better.

Yet it’s hard to find motivation when you’re trudging down the same old road – especially when it comes to weight loss. A well-worn dieting path is rarely as interesting, sexy or exciting as it was the first go ‘round. There are no dips or turns that you don’t see coming because the ground feels so well-tread. Anyone can drink lemon water with cayenne pepper for 10 days straight — once. Right?  But doing something as punitive as that again, when you have even more weight to lose, now that takes motivation!
For many of us (and especially for the weight-struggling women I speak to), trying to lose weight is more often than not an all-or-nothing proposition. Just like so much of our behavior, once we’ve made up our mind, we rush into something with all the gusto we can muster. Because if we can’t attack it 100%  – why even make the effort? And if we figure out that our master plan is failing us, even a little bit, are you kidding? Back to the drawing board!

When it comes to dieting, no wonder so many of us throw in the towel. With so many failures stored in our databanks, who can trust they actually possess the ability to achieve healthy weight loss success? Especially if we keep boarding the ‘all or nothing’ diet train to nowhere.

My advice to all of you all-or-nothing types out there is just this one simple thing — give yourself a break! Life is neither good nor bad, either right or wrong, and rushing toward a thinner you like a speeding train isn’t healthy. Stop dieting and start living (yes, we said it first), because taking just a few steps in the right direction (as Mr. Hansen suggests above) will get you where you need to go. We see it happening here every day.

Happy, healthy New Year!

5 responses to “All Or Nothing – The Truth About Motivation”

  1. Marsha says:

    Great message, Cindy.

  2. Lori says:

    So true – motivation is fleeting. That’s why I say dedication, not motivation!
    .-= Lori’s last blog post..Blood donation day and new things! =-.

  3. Jaime says:

    That’s an awesome message and right on the money! We do need motivation to start our fire burning, but its the slow burning log that keeps us warm the longest. Good stuff Cindy.

  4. In my life, what I tend to do is go out, gung ho, 110%, determined to change everything — um, right now. Then one of two things happen: either I take on so much that I burn myself out and throw in the towel (there’s that all or nothing thinking at work…) or I endlessly procrastinate, putting off my “start day” forever into the future. Procrastination is the flip side of perfectionism – we don’t want to begin because our plan is so daunting that we’re terrified to start. And so we do nothing.

    How I healed from sugar addiction, overeating, and the accompanying weight gain was by making my healing my spiritual practice. A practice is just what it implies – something I do everyday, whether I feel like it or not, without obsessing about doing it perfectly.

    As I committed myself to my practice, I found myself focusing more on the journey itself and less about some future “finish line” when everything was “done” – when I was healed, together, flawless. The journey, the practice, became the point – and the ultimate source of my healing. It’s what tamed the false belief that there is a perfect time to act, instead, embracing every day as an opportunity to grow, change, and, most importantly – to love.

    Warmly, Karly

    P.S. – Thank you, Marsha, for the kind comment about me on Margarita’s blog on psych central. I love what you’re doing here! Keep up the excellent work!
    .-= Karly Randolph Pitman’s last blog post..The 3 stages of healing from sugar addiction =-.

  5. Cindy says:

    ‘Dedication, not motivation,’ ‘the warm log burns longer’ and ‘procrastination, the flip-side of perfectionism.’ As always, all of your thoughts and sentiments really hit home.

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