I was having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine this weekend. I use the term ‘conversation’ lightly, because what it really turned out to be was a debate. We’re both opinionated, this is true, but boy that girl sure likes to be right!
What were we talking about? Our current fitness regimes. (‘Regime’ being a word I abhor). Mine, a more integrated approach, hers having to do with her new devotion to a national fitness chain of the 30 minute circuit variety. That being said, my point is this…why does it matter what exercise plan you’re involved with if it’s working for you?
For whatever the reason, when it comes to changing the way you eat, getting a new hairstyle, trying a new fitness activity, or any lifestyle change you might be trying to make, people are inclined to judge, criticize and/or advise. I recognize that most of us believe we dish out our opinions from ‘the goodness of our heart’, but let us not forget that in reality unsolicited advice isn’t always welcome.
So, next time you feel the urge to offer up an opinion, maybe rethink your intent and say something someone really might like to hear:
‘Your dedication and hard work is impressive. Congratulations!’
‘I’m glad you found an exercise routine that you really enjoy, that’s great!’
‘You’re really making positive changes – and it shows. Keep up the great work!’
‘Let’s go out and celebrate our success. I’m buying!’
My advice? Compliment and support. Celebrate each other’s success. Who cares how you got there?