Don’t Get Distracted by What You Call It.


I was having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine this weekend. I use the term ‘conversation’ lightly, because what it really turned out to be was a debate. We’re both opinionated, this is true, but boy that girl sure likes to be right!

What were we talking about?  Our current fitness regimes.  (‘Regime’ being a word I abhor). Mine, a more integrated approach, hers having to do with her new devotion to a national fitness chain of the 30 minute circuit variety.  That being said, my point is this…why does it matter what exercise plan you’re involved with if it’s working for you?

For whatever the reason, when it comes to changing the way you eat, getting a new hairstyle, trying a new fitness activity, or any lifestyle change you might be trying to make, people are inclined to judge, criticize and/or advise.  I recognize that most of us believe we dish out our opinions from ‘the goodness of our heart’, but let us not forget that in reality unsolicited advice isn’t always welcome.

So, next time you feel the urge to offer up an opinion, maybe rethink your intent and say something someone really might like to hear:

‘Your dedication and hard work is impressive. Congratulations!’

‘I’m glad you found an exercise routine that you really enjoy, that’s great!’

‘You’re really making positive changes – and it shows. Keep up the great work!’

‘Let’s go out and celebrate our success. I’m buying!’

My advice? Compliment and support. Celebrate each other’s success. Who cares how you got there?

4 responses to “Don’t Get Distracted by What You Call It.”

  1. tanya says:

    AMEN! It seems once something works for us, we want to shout it from the rooftops and tell everybody that this is the way I did it – and this is the way you should too. Maybe there are good intentions, but like you said – what works for me, my body type, and my metabolism, may not work for you. I think that may be the difference between a FAN and a FANATIC. A fan tells you why they love something, and shares their joy. A fanatic insists that you like it too.

  2. Cindy says:

    Amen, to you Tanya! You summed it up better than I did. Thanks for your thoughts.

  3. ilene says:

    AMEN TO THAT!! Since returning from Green Mountain 6 months ago, I have been eating well and working out several days a week. People are taking notice and along with that comes a lot of crazy suggestions under the guise of helpfulness. My personal favorite was an overweight neighbor of mine suggested that I might lose weight faster if I tried something called “The Cookie Diet”. She explained you eat special diet cookies for breakfast, lunch and dinner!! I politely thanked her then went home and annonymously forwarded a brochure from GM to her!! HAH!

  4. Cindy says:

    First of all, congratulations Ilene!

    Hmmm, the cookie diet – sounds nutritious. 😉 Here’s to having a REAL cookie…


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