The Binge Eating Diaries: After the Resolutions (Or Not)


Whether you made one New Year’s resolution, five New Year’s resolutions, or decided that resolutions don’t work for you, this time of year is a transitional period for each and every one of us. The holidays have ended, and with them the seasonal food torture.

Now relatives are out of sight, leftovers are no longer invading the fridge, and our resolutions and/or goals seem more realistic than they did in December. But what happens now?

Not getting overwhelmed or over-infatuated with our resolutions and/or goals is key.

If we want to go to the gym to feel better about ourselves all around, make a schedule that doesn’t feel daunting or out of the realm of possibilities and also doesn’t bring out the obsessive in us.

I’ve mentioned before I once lost a lot of weight… in a very short amount of time. During college in the summer when I had no other responsibilities, I made what I thought was a healthy decision, but it turned into an obsessive ritual of overexercising. Now, with a full-time job, it’s not realistic that I’ll ever sell my soul to cardio again, but the memory lingers and reminds me that achieving goals over time without the pressure of a deadline works for me.

No matter what you want to bring to the table in 2013, remember there is only so much one human can bring at a time, if you want to keep what’s on the table in some kind of order. A potluck of resolutions reminds me of a buffet of food – fantastic in theory, but unmanageable in reality.

Take your time, write it down, and maybe go with your gut on this one – what is going to feel best, not look best on paper.


2 responses to “The Binge Eating Diaries: After the Resolutions (Or Not)”

  1. Ryan says:

    I so agree with you. I never make resolutions for January 1st. I am constantly setting smaller goals for myself. I find that this makes it much more manageable and I am more likely to actually accomplish something. Even though I am a perfectionist and I tend to dive in head first when I want to achieve something, I know that I will crash and burn if I set my sights too high. Or at the very least, I will disappoint myself in some way. The problem with being a perfectionist is that nobody is perfect, so at some point you need to accept that you are good enough. This is easier to do when you haven’t set some lofty goal that is almost impossible to achieve “perfectly”. I really admire your laid back approach 🙂

  2. Jace says:

    Ryan-Thank you so much for commenting. You have such a way with words! I feel exactly the same as an all-or-nothing thinker striving to be perfect. There is no perfect, just better.

    I love this quote I saw on a billboard. Perhaps it will resonate with you too:
    “Better has no finish line”

    We CAN strive to feel better, look better, love ourselves more but when we strive for best we fall into striving for the unobtainable perfection.

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Jacki Monaco

Jacki (or Jace) is a Green Mountain alum that shares experiences with binge eating disorder through "The Binge Eating Diaries” series. Follow Jacki as she shares the discoveries she’s made on her journey to health and happiness.

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