A Survivor’s Guide to Valentines Day


valentine day cardYes, that special day for lovers is upon us. When Hallmark, Whitman and FTD stocks soar.  The day where we all panic at the drugstore on our way home from work and take a moment from our busy, stress-filled lives to show that someone special we care — extra care — about them.

With all its good intentions is Valentines Day really good for the heart? Or does it create just another opportunity to have your expectations blown? Does Valentines Day make you feel especially loved and appreciated, or do you end up head first in a pint of Ben Jerry’s?

Here’s an entertaining piece where the writers toss around the yin and yang of V-Day.  It provides both sides of the Valentines argument – and, as usual, I find myself agreeing with both. What else is new, I’m commonly conflicted.

The Pros and Cons Of Valentines Day – By Lisa Kadane and Shelley Boettcher, Canwest News Service:

 “What bothers me most about Valentine’s Day is the expectation of an expensive present or dinner out on a Hallmark Holiday, as if money expenditure equals love. It’s a tax for the guilty-hearted. That’s the main reason I hate heart day, and here are some more…”  

Check out the entire article,  here.

Here’s my own idea of how to get a healthy perspective on the big day.  Love yourself!

  • Send yourself some flowers. Or, better yet, if you live where flowers can still be plucked, go out and pick yourself a bunch.
  • Set up your bathroom like you’re expecting ‘company’, but forget the company and indulge yourself in bubbles, bubbly, candles, music, and your favorite fashion magazine.
  • Call your mother and tell her you love her. She’s probably suffering too.

5 responses to “A Survivor’s Guide to Valentines Day”

  1. Robyn says:

    Ah… Valentines Day, or as I often refer to it “just another day, but with chocolate.” I don’t care much about this holiday, but one year my husband did send me flowers at work. I don’t love spending money on flowers that are going to die in a week, but the fact that I was not expecting ANYTHING from him was what made it so nice. That’s my advice, don’t expect gifts, but if you get them enjoy the surprise or better yet surprise someone else. I like the idea of calling my mother. Thanks for the tip!

  2. I do get excited about Valentine’s Day and my boyfriend and I are going out to dinner. Which I’m really looking forward to.

    But I also love your emphasis, Cindy, on loving yourself and doing something special for yourself. I actually wrote a post yesterday about a great movement called “Madly In Love With Me” about the importance of self-love and self-care: http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2010/02/boosting-your-body-image-by-becoming-madly-in-love-with-me/

    Something very important to teach kids, too.
    .-= Margarita Tartakovsky’s last blog post..Boosting Your Body Image by Becoming “Madly In Love with Me” =-.

  3. Jaime says:

    Yes! What a great twist on Valentine’s Day. Sweetness for the spirit and not Russell Stover by the kilogram!

  4. Cindy says:

    I hear ‘ya Robyn, I too will succumb to gifts and flowers and a nice dinner out is wonderful too – I’m only human! But oh so much sweeter when given just because.

    Great post, Margaret — Madly in Love with Me! I think it’s a work in progress for most of us.

    Russell Stovers? Them’s fightin’ words! ;0)

  5. Chef Lisa says:

    I have a double whammy on February 14th…it’s also my hubby’s birthday. So instead of being indulged myself, I tend to indulge him…with a foot rub, a chick-flick free TV, and a (home-cooked) gourmet dinner. (He’s a sweetie and he deserves it.) Notice all these things cost nothing, other than my ingredients…take that, Hallmark!

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