6 Ways to Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin

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Are you at war with your own body?

Are you constantly comparing yourself to others or maybe to a version of your younger self?

Do you judge or pick apart your body when you look at yourself in the mirror?

Do you avoid doing things because you don’t want others to see you?

If so, you are not alone.

Most of the woman that come through our doors of Green Mountain at Fox Run answer YES to most, if not all, of these questions.

We see talented, engaging, smart, compassionate, funny, artistic, dedicated and passionate women spend their days hating themselves when they arrive at our door.

Almost 100% of their thoughts every day are focused on things like:

  • Good foods and bad foods
  • What they have eaten or not eaten
  • What body part they hate
  • Making excuses to go places
  • Counting calories
  • Looking up diets
  • Thinking about their next eating episode
  • Comparing themselves to others
  • How many calories they have burned, or not burned
  • How “bad” or “good” they have been
  • Beating themselves up for their lack of “willpower” or the size of their thighs

These thoughts ride around and around on well-worn train tracks in their heads.

Creating Space to #BeHerNow

One of our goals here at Green Mountain at Fox Run is to help these women create space in their heads for more productive thoughts and activities, things like…singing, writing, creating, speaking, motivating, supporting, dancing, sharing, protesting, comforting, communicating, educating and more…

We want to help YOU start the journey to feeling comfortable in your own skin. We want to guide you to realize that you are so much more than a number on a scale or the size of your pants. We want to encourage you to start appreciating and accepting your body…to start to #BeHerNow.

To that end, here are six ways we support women JUST LIKE YOU on the path to taking better care of themselves. It begins by believing that you are worth it.

1. Cultivate Self-Compassion.

Discover, develop, and strengthen a compassionate and kind inner voice that can validate pain, soothe suffering, ward off the mean inner voice, and begin to befriend your whole self…your body, mind, and spirit.


Build a Road for Long-Term Success

Our program provides tools beyond diet & exercise that will help you find and maintain a healthy weight. You’ll learn why you eat when you aren’t hungry, why you lose motivation to exercise, and how to make changes that last…while enjoying Vermont’s unparalleled summer weather and forging friendships with other Green Mountain women that will last for years to come.

Contact us to find peace with food, body, and self…starting this summer.


2. Challenge Your Thoughts with Curiosity.

Question your current thoughts and beliefs with nonjudgmental curiosity. When a thought arises, ask yourself:

  • Why do I think that way?
  • What made me feel that?
  • Why do I say that to myself?

3. Give Yourself Permission to Choose.

Instead of making choices based on a diet or a set of rules, grant permission to yourself to make your OWN choices about:

  • What to eat
  • When to eat
  • How much to eat

4. Call Upon Courage to Make a Change to Your Current Thoughts and Behaviors.

Our behaviors are linked to our current thoughts. For example, when you step on a scale and a number pops up, what thoughts come up? And with those thoughts, what are the behaviors that follow?

Connecting the dots from the thought to the behavior creates a pause…within this pause, change the thought.

5. Build Confidence Through the Competence of Noticing and Pausing.

By pausing, we can question the thought, without judgment.

Your old thoughts make look like this:

“Wow, I am such a failure. I might as well go to McDonalds, because it doesn’t matter anyway.”

But noticing and pausing may look like:

“Wow, that is interesting. Why am I feeling like this? Why does a number on a scale provoke these feelings? I know am doing the best I can right now…things have been hard. I wonder what it is that I need…maybe I will take a walk, take a bath, call a friend to vent, cry, or journal.”

Making a different decision will build more confidence, thus more competence, and so on…

6. Make Connections with Others Who Share Similar Experiences.

Connecting with others who have had the same experiences helps create validation and a realization that you are not alone. Sharing thoughts and feelings with someone on the same journey can create a safe space to share.

We know that human connection has many benefits such as decreasing stress, anxiety, comparison. and judgment while increasing safety, OK-ness, and a sense of well-being.

Are You Ready to Be Comfortable in Your Own Skin?

  • Start with some self-compassion
  • Be curious
  • Make choices
  • Challenge thoughts and behaviors
  • Have courage to create change
  • Gain confidence and competence
  • Make connections

Your body is your home. It is here within your own skin where you can find comfort and contentment.   

When women leave Green Mountain, we see talented, engaging, smart, compassionate, funny, artistic, dedicated, and passionate women head home…with a sense of comfort in their own skin along with a greater sense of well-being.         


2 responses to “6 Ways to Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin”

  1. Yana says:

    What if it’s a nice day out. I finally get out for a walk in the park. I’m enjoying myself. A woman walks by with a young child and the child says mommy look that lady is solo fat. I said. Honey that’s not a nice thing to say. The mom looks awkward but she nothing. I still enjoy my walk but I think to myself: man, I walked out here feeling great about my appearance but now im not so sure. Others judging my body is a big sore point for me and keeps me home bound more than I would like. What do I do in this instance? I just want to live my life and just be and it bothers me when strangers comment on my weight. Even kids. I used to be a teacher and used to love working with kids but not anymore. Not just due to the comments but it’s a part of it.

    • Anne Poirier, BS, CSCS, CIEC says:

      Thank you so much for your comment and question. First of all you are right in feeling the way you feel. As a start think about finding some compassion for what that child (along with other children today) will have to deal with as they grow up. Children grow up learning many of thier thoughts and behaviors from thier parents.

      What we do here at Green Mountain at Fox Run is begin to change our own thoughts and beliefs about what we hear from others. We try to empower women to realize that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks…period. To be proud to be outside on a beautiful day walking and taking care of yourself, being grateful for the ability to walk, and for what your body does… build the strength to deflect any comments that come at you, and realize they have nothing to do with you, they have to do with the other people’s stuff, there own fears and beliefs. It takes practice and patience, I find it helps in realizing that no one else knows your story, no one else has the right to comment on your shape, and when and if they do, deflect the comment right back at them. A saying that has helped me in the past is “Not your body not your business.” Whether you say it outloud, or to yourself, it can give you the strength to let the judgment go.

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Anne Poirier, BS, CSCS, CIEC

By sharing experiences and lessons learned through her writing, Anne’s goal is to first, help women finally feel free enough to break away from their dieting chains and learn how to listen and honor their body’s internal cues. Second, to discover and experience more joy in moving their bodies and finally, understand the importance of taking time for themselves. Her philosophy of strengthening the connections among participants’ minds, hearts and bodies fits perfectly with Green Mountain’s philosophy of lasting change through comprehensive, integrative health programming. Anne is the Program Director at Green Mountain at Fox Run.

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