Many of us who struggle with negative body image dread the days that are upon us. All the holiday gatherings mean finding clothes to wear, seeing people (relatives!) whom we haven’t seen for a while perhaps, facing down tables laden with food we often feel a bit fearful of. But it doesn’t have to be this way. If we begin the season thinking about ourselves differently, it can make a world of difference in how we enjoy them.
An e-letter arrived this week from one of my favorite sites, Daily OM, that talked about self confidence and how we compare ourselves to others. And, of course, that’s what goes on when, while we’re feeling bad about ourselves, we walk into a room full of people whom we think are thinner, more successful, happier, etc., than we are. The bottom line according to the article: What we think we see in others is usually what they want us to see. If we looked more closely, we’d see they have imperfections, too. They’re human. The article calls the imperfections “glorious” and say they make us who we are. It also encourages us to appreciate our imperfections as our uniqueness, and notes that if we’re too busy comparing ourselves to others, we really can’t see what makes us unique.
Read the article yourself to get the full force of what they are saying. They do a much better job than what I did above. Then go out there and have a wonderful, happy and healthy holiday season!