Size Acceptance – A Heavy Weight Lifted

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Negative Messaging

Over the last year we’ve received a lot of comments regarding a post which addressed the clothing industry and their introduction of size 0.body-image-weight-mirror

The fact that women can or cannot fit into a size zero really wasn’t the issue at the time. The point of the post was addressed at how ridiculous the idea of a size ‘0’ seemed. Zero, it’s not even a number. What did ‘zero’ say about women? What was the message? Intentional or not, why was it negative?

Since then there has been a lot of response from women who have expressed their frustration and sometimes anger over their own struggles finding clothes that fit their petite frames. Some women find it impossible to find clothes that fit them and this particularly becomes a problem when one is looking for professional clothes, or age appropriate clothing when forced to shop in the teen department.

Focusing on the Wrong Issue

In an article written by Rebecca Gardyn in American Demographics, in 2003, titled, ‘The Shape of Things to Come’ she discusses these changes in fashion, consumer demand and sizing. Here’s an excerpt from the article:

[quote]”The size and shape of the “average” American consumer today is dramatically different from 60 years ago. Nevertheless, apparel companies still develop clothing lines based on the proportions of 1940s models. As poor fit and lack of comfort compromise clothes marketers’ bottom lines, they are investing more into researching size issues and problems, a complex matrix of challenges ranging from new body hefts to an evolving zeitgeist with regard to normal, attractive and healthy appearances.”[/quote]

Because the average American women is slightly larger on average than in previous decades, a shift in sizing to meet the needs of the consumer has created a problem for women who had previously been able to purchase clothes on the smaller side of the size spectrum.

All this being said it causes me concern to read some of the comments (on both sides of the size issue), that often go beyond the pale of criticism of the fashion industry and take aim directly at women.

Resentment towards women who are more petite, round, tall, short or have other body composition issues that may cause them difficulty finding clothes is not where we want to go on this blog – ever.

Truly Practicing Self Acceptance Means…

We talk a lot about ‘accepting your wonderful self’, at Green Mountain at Fox Run, but it is equally important to practice self love and acceptance for all women and not misplace our frustration and resentment towards each other. To begin to feel we ‘hate’ other ‘fat’ or ‘skinny’ women because we can’t find clothes to fit us is beneath us all.

We welcome all women on this blog and we encourage open and uncensored discussion, but we can’t support intolerance towards each other.

Remember, self-acceptance means unconditional appreciation and support for who you are now and supporting others who are struggling to reach that same self-acceptance every day.

We encourage you to learn to love your body, while respecting other’s journey to do the same thing


5 responses to “Size Acceptance – A Heavy Weight Lifted”

  1. anonymous says:

    I wish you would stop using tinyurl links. There is no need for them in the context of a blog, because there is no copying and pasting of the links.

    I hate clicking on a link and not having a sense of where it is leading me – it is asking the user to trust you to pick a site that I want to visit, and that just isn’t always true. Also, when the link doesn’t work (as in one of your links today) it is not possible to fix it without knowing to what the url refers.

    The only good place to use tinyurls, imho, is when you are sending links (a) in emails, and (b) to friends who trust you. In this case, there is a legitimate concern about a long url being broken up and difficult to copy and paste. Otherwise there’s no reason not to put the url in directly.

  2. Cindy says:

    I’m not sure I understand your concern where tiny urls are concerned. The link referenced w/in the post (even when tiny url is used), takes you directly to the source where the entire url of the article is evident. This is my experience. I’m not sure what further information you feel you require. I may be misunderstanding your frustration. I use tinyurl because it makes it easier to use long urls, which is often the case, especially when referencing articles. Smaller urls help ensure that the link is entered correctly. Typepad does not allow you to cute and past urls.

    Please feel free to email me with any other concerns.

  3. Anonymous says:

    My frustration is primarily that I can’t mouseover the link to see what it is going to. Normally, when using the web, I (and I would assume most people) glance at what the link is going to before clicking on it. For example, if you were linking to nytimes.com, then I would know that the link was to a news article. If it was to aweightlifted.blogs.com then I would know it was a past blog post.

    In the post above, the phrase “clothing industry” is linked, but there’s no way to know what it is linked to — is it a news article? is it a post in this blog? is it an article on your main site? is it a discussion forum? It’s a complete mystery until I click on it and find that it’s an MSNBC article. What if I don’t want to support MSNBC by clicking on their website and having their ads load up and their user statistics increase? I don’t have that choice; either don’t click on any links from your site or risk being sent somewhere that I’m not interested in.

    My secondary concern about tinyurls is that if you have a typo, as in your first link in this post, one of two things happens. Either the tinyurl is invalid and there’s no way to fix it. With a regular URL, I could tweak it to get it to work. Or, despite the best of your intentions, you could easily accidentally link to someone else’s tinyurl by changing one character in the link. This could be anything – a blog, a news article, a porn site, whatever. I have no way of knowing if the link is broken or why or how by looking at the tinurl.

    In effect, tinyurl is asking the reader to trust you completely: check out this link, I won’t tell you anything about it in advance, trust me that I’ve typed it correctly and that it’s a site you’re willing to look at.

  4. Cindy says:

    I appreciate your feedback. The use of tiny url is new for me and it is not my intent to guide you to articles or references that you would not find interesting or useful. However, making it easier for you to decern if you want to follow a link is something we can pay more attention to. Thanks.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Thanks. I do love your blog otherwise! 🙂

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