What Do You Need to Hear Right Now? From Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion

When I bring up the concept of self-compassion to people, without fail, the same question always comes up: [quote]“But what if I’m not doing well at (fill in the blank)?  Shouldn’t I be hard on myself to do better?”[/quote] My response is generally the same: “Well, how has being hard on yourself motivated you to […]

Journaling for Change: Finding Success One Blog at a Time

Journaling is not my thing. I like to write and I’ve been lucky enough to find outlet for my writing but I don’t particularly like journaling. I tried it once and it didn’t go well. I was pregnant. I know what you’re thinking…[quote]Who the hell decides to write down their innermost feelings while riding the […]

Inspirational Resources for Shifting Painful Thoughts

Who Do You Choose to Inspire You? I’ve long believed that we need a separate source of information, of inspiration, to move beyond whatever we struggle with. Unfortunately, we’re not always so good at shifting our perceptual lenses, at taking in the “information” or ways of seeing people, relationships or our selves. We get stuck… […]

The Happiness Advantage: Accentuate the Positive

When I was a little girl I remember my dad trying to teach me swing dancing in our living room to Bing Crosby’s, “Ac-cent-tchu-ate The Positive,” a clever little tune written by Johnny Mercer. Maybe you remember the chorus? You’ve gotta ac-cent-tchu-ate the positive E-lim-inate the negative Latch on to the affirmative Don’t mess with […]