Weight Loss –The “Should”

There is something about the New Year that invites the word “should” into our hearts and minds.  “I should have de-cluttered my house last year” or “I should be thinking about weight loss as 2012 begins” or I should taking better care of myself”. I was reading  Stepping Out of the Should Trap by Jo […]

Magical Thinking and Wishes

During this holiday season, I hear many women wishing for weight loss or not having  negative feelings about their body image. This time of year the power of weight stigma becomes more soul crushing. Judgment based on size crumples the tender, budding esteem for which we are desperately searching. Deciding that we are not okay […]

Compassionate listening-a gift to yourself and others

Compassion for those around us and for ourselves can  decrease stress during the holidays. At Green Mountain at Fox Run,  our healthy weight loss retreat in Vermont, we have been talking about how self compassion can decrease depression and negative self talk and increase communication in relationships. Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. wrote an article on her blog […]

Feeling Fat, Assuming the Worst, and Mirth

The book Why Our Brains Make Us Laugh written by Hurley,Dennett and Adams was recently reviewed in the Boston Globe by Chris Berdik and prompted me to think about the assumptions we make constantly…about what’s wrong with us and what derogatory thing someone else is thinking about us. We say to ourselves: Weight loss, I […]

Ending Relationships

I’m almost sure no one has reached this point in life without having ended by choice or circumstances meaningful relationships – be they with someone who’s still alive but changed, someone who’s rejected you or you them, or someone who has died. Although Cathy Davidson’s book, Now You See It, How the Brain Science of […]

Fat Talk Free Week

Wake Up to Fat Talk Fat Talk is a conversational trap of habituated and mindless speaking. We not only use  it on others, but it is also how we talk to ourselves.  Frequently it’s used as a starter or how we greet old friends… “Wow, it looks like you have lost weight” or “Gosh, I […]

The Body Connection: Nia & a New Program Director at Green Mountain

We’d like to introduce you to the newest member of the Green Mountain family — Barbara Meyer, PhD, our new program director. We’re thrilled she has joined us, and we think you’ll be very excited to hear about some new things she’s bringing to our program. As a PhD in Health Education, Barbara knows that […]

Creating Your Internal Support Team

Today's post is a follow-up to Darla's from last week on How to Talk Sense to Yourself. Or in other words, changing negative self talk. ACT II on the stage between your ears…. There's no one we believe more than ourselves, so all that negative self talk that we let aimlessly chatter away harms us. […]

How to Talk Sense to Yourself

Today's post is a follow-up to the post Darla wrote a few weeks ago titled "To Fix Problems, Stop Admiring Them."  As always, she comes through with some spot-on insight and strategies for changing our thinking. In a recent blog, we talked about how we are quite accomplished at talking about and bonding with others […]

Stopping Negative Self Talk, Fat Talk

In keeping with Fat Talk Free Week, I thought I would post links today to a few articles we’ve written over the years about how to change negative self talk.  Which, of course, is what fat talk is. How To Change Negative Self Talk This first one was written ages ago, a result of reading […]

To Fix Problems, Stop Admiring Them

Today’s post is another from Darla Breckenridge, our psychologist at Green Mountain.  She takes a different look at what we’re doing when we think or speak about our problems in the usual way. Admiring our problems is a case of unwittingly practicing or rehearsing how we think about them. In the usual course of things, […]

Creating Affirmations to Add Positive Self-Talk to Our Lives

Today’s post is again by Darla Breckenridge, our psychologist-masters at Green Mountain. It’s a follow-up to last week’s post on turning your bathroom into an affirmation room. Caught in a cycle of negative self-talk and criticism?  Try creating affirmations that allow you to be focused in the present moment, not thinking about the past and […]

How to Stop Hating Your Body

Today's post on changing negative body image is by Darla Breckenridge, our psychologist-masters at Green Mountain. I feel so honored to work individually with the women who choose to see me at Green Mountain at Fox Run!  The power of the transformation gained by moving through pain amazes me each time I have the privilege […]

Changing Negative Thinking: The Thought Stopping Technique

Negative thoughts about ourselves are a plague among weight-worried women.  "You look awful stuffed into those jeans."  "You're really hopeless, you know." "You should have just stayed home." Rather than being just in-the-moment downers, these kinds of thoughts have much more impact than we might think.  If we engage in them long enough, they begin […]

The Comparison Game

Why can’t I have Gwen Stefani’s abs, or Jennifer Aniston’s chin, or my co-worker’s clear complexion????  Well, basically the answer is, because I’m not them.  My genes are different; my lifestyle is different, so of course we don’t look the same.  While it’s common knowledge that we all are different, why is it so easy […]

Life Doesn’t Start at Your Goal Weight!

When I lose all this extra weight, I’m going on vacation! When I reach my goal weight, then I’ll try swing dancing. I know I need new clothes, but I’m not buying any until I lose weight. I’ll get back out there and start dating, but first I need to get back down to a […]

How Eating as Much as You Want Can Help You Lose Weight

When I encourage people to eat as much as they want in their quest for healthy weight loss, the response is incredulous, to say the least.  “You’ve got to be kidding. If I took the brakes off, I’d eat anything and everything and lots of it.” The light begins to dawn when I ask, “Is […]