Write Your Own Manifesto to Help with Overeating

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woman-manifesto-smallAre you being true to you?

I have found in over 25 years of talking to women about their struggles with their bodies and overeating, that one dynamic that comes up often is the feeling of wanting to rebel. Against diets (who wouldn’t?!), food rules, ways of being.

I believe this is healthy, natural, and a signal from your intuitive self that it wants your attention.

You will never be happy living by somebody else’s rules. You will not feel satisfied, filled up, nourished when trying to uphold other peoples’ standards of happiness, well-being, wellness.

You need your own rules. You deserve your own rules.

My list of personal commandments

Try writing your own list of personal commandments. Here are a few of mine as examples:

1. Early to bed early to rise

2. Hug anyone who will accept one

3. Say I love you whenever possible

4. Laugh hard

5. Stay in present time

6. Let myself be seen and heard, as myself

7. Find and create beauty everywhere

8. Bring nature inside

9. Don’t attach to the spectacle

10. Don’t say everything I think

11. Let it go

12. Act from inspiration more than fear

Write your own manifesto

At Green Mountain, we have what is called a Womanifesto – a sort of code and ideology for living well that represents the Green Mountain philosophy.

I think every one of us could use our own, very specific, guidelines that remind us of how we want to live, and what we truly believe in.

Naming these for your self is powerful. It may also make you happier. Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project writes about her own guidelines for writing that she calls the happiness Commandments.

Living in congruence is huge

What does this have to do with getting relief from overeating?

Plenty. When you begin to connect with what is in your heart, what is meaningful to you and then choose to live by it, you are living in congruence. Where your heart and mind are no longer separate. Your beliefs and values and words, then match your actions and your choices.

This feels good on a very deep level. It allows you to live comfortably in your skin with less shame and less guilt. You live true to yourself and not somebody else’s.

And, your rebel-self doesn’t have to act up and sabotage you because it’s not being heard.

Please let me know what you decide should be on your own manifesto. I can’t wait to hear.

4 Responses (Add Yours)

  • Helen says:

    Loved this post, did 10 rules of my own over on my blog :) Stay happy.hx

  • barb says:

    really related to this article and the idea of rebel self visa vis my eating (restricting and binging)Will think this over and make up my manifesto and attempt to feel ok that my rules may not be in keeping with the values and rules of my family or society at the moment.

  • Peg Bartley says:

    My rebel deffinately needs to be heard. She’s been calling out to me for a long time. One of my “commandments” may be: how can I accomplish what my rebel wants without creating trouble? Hmm this sounds a lot like front loading :)

  • Harriet Krivit says:

    “A DAY AT A TIME”…OR MAYBE EVEN A MINUTE…LIKE AN EPILEPTIC I HAVE EATING SPASMS.
    ACCEPTANCE AND NO GUILT IS THE KEYTO SOME PEACE…EVERYTHING WITH DISORDERED EATING IS NOT CONSCIOUS…SUBCONSCIOUS IS WHAT IT SAYS..SO O.K. DO THE BEST I CAN WITH KEEPING THE “SPASMS” HEALTHY, SINCE I LOVE HOMEMADE HOT SOUPS, FRESH VEGGIES, SALADS AND HEALTHY PROTEINS LKE WILD SALMON AND THE BEST TURKEY & CHICKEN PLUS GREAT BREADS AND DESSERTS ETC. AND WHEN IT’S OVER…ASK MYSELF “O.K. HARRIET WHAT’S GOOD?” (with how you handled food today)…I NEVER GIVE UP TRYING TO MANAGE MY DISORDER.. ENJOY STARCHES/SWEETS/SALTY FOODS ETC. AS WELL BUT NOT FRIED FOODS ..JUST DON’T AGREE WITH MY STOMACH & DON’T CARE ABOUT THEM. BUT, WHEN PROFESSIONALS GIVE EXAMPLES OF EATING DISORDERS (BINGE EATING IN PARTICULAR) BROWNIES, SWEETS ETC. ARE ALWAYS USED AS EVERYONE’S TRIGGER PROBLEM. GIVE ME A RIPE PIECE OF HONEYDEW MELON OR THE PERFECT SUMMER TOMATO OR THE FRESEST EAR OF CORN OR STEAMED LOBSTER OR THE CHEESESCAKE OR BROWNIE…ALL THE SAME. IT’S THE WHOLE PROCESS OF EATING THAT’S MAGIC LAND FOR ME…I THINK ABOUT FOOD, SEE IT, SMELL IT, TASTE IT, CHEW IT, SWALLOW IT AND FEEL IT GO DOWN. I COULD NOT AND HAVE NEVER BEEN EITHER ANORECTIC OR BULEMIC BECAUSE IT’S THE WHOLE EATING EXPERIENCE I LOVE AND HAVE LOVED EVERSINCE MY GRAZING STYLE/BINGE EATING DISORDER MANIFESTED ITSELF QUITE SUDDENLY AT THE AGE OF 13 TO NOW 79.

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