A continuation of the article Food Addiction Part II: Knowing When to Lick Our Wounds.
Moving out of using food to cope, finding ways out of using food or eating or obsessing about it all as addictive strategies requires a major paradigm shift – and a boatload of courage. And a little (or sometimes more) support doesn’t hurt either.
Saying “no” to the old ways may mean saying “no”… period.
You will need to begin to say no to those things that drain you.
That means the people, the people-pleasing and perfectionism.
It will mean saying no to putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own, and beginning to put some Daily Essentials in place to stay filled up and nourish yourself in new reliable ways.
It will mean paying attention to any kind of pain you’re in. If you think about what this means for you, right now in this moment, you might jot down 3 situations where you are in pain. Feel free to define pain in whatever way you need to, but pay attention, this is your life we’re talking about.
What about the foods that drain you or keep you in pain? You probably know what they are, right? And yet so many times we believe we have no capacity, no power to choose better. Is that true and is that really how you want to see yourself?
What I can tell you, what I know for sure and see over and over with the women who I work with, is that it’s so much more painful to feel helpless and to continue in these painful patterns that don’t support you. It’s way more demoralizing to continue to ignore the ways your body, your heart, and your mind want to help you make the shifts that make the difference. Part of you already knows this.
Sometimes it just takes a little bit of “permission” from yourself, or maybe somebody else who can hear you and give you perspective that making these changes will free you in ways that you might not even be able to imagine yet.
You are meant to be fully and wholly who you are. A bright light – free to share your gifts with your head up. When you are swirling in any addictive patterns around food and eating behaviors, it’s hard to feel that way, hard to even want to show up that way.
But it can only get better… you’re going to have to trust me on this.
Want to talk more? Have some thoughts to share or a question? I’d love to hear your comments below. What I know from doing this work for 25 years and from my time working at Green Mountain is that we are stronger together.
I want that for you.
Green Mountain will be holding the workshop “Why Can’t I Stop Overeating: Breaking Through Food Addiction” from December 5-8, 2014.