Did You See Her Thigh Gap?

By Lisa Christie
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post baby body thigh gap mediaOkay, this is a thing now apparently. Like a thing young women are striving for when they go on diets - getting the perfect thigh gap. So, now this body ideal we are supposed to covet includes not only perky breasts, a flat stomach with a six pack, toned arms… and a gap. No – not a gap between your teeth, because that’s NOT acceptable, only a gap between your thighs so they don’t touch when you stand with your feet together.

Thigh gaps, post-baby bodies and wrinkles

I guess this “thigh gap” thing is more prevalent in the younger set – but this latest body obsession insanity runs parallel to women in their 20s and 30s desperately trying to shed the baby weight in a matter of weeks, or women in their 40s, 50s and beyond looking high and low for a magic elixir to stave off wrinkles.

So, can we blame the media?

Yes and no. The media prints it – but we keep buying it. If we think it’s insane how much magazines focus on weight, or how body-critical websites are, then we need to stop reading, watching and buying them until something changes. Yes, us.

I’m not saying that the media is not at fault. There have been plenty of of studies on how we feel after we read or watch certain things, so believe me, I know it’s legit. So if fat shaming in the media and fat talk are not new topics, then why am I writing about them? For some reason this latest thigh gap issue hit a nerve. How many women will avoid the beach this year or not go on spring break because they don’t have a thigh gap yet? How many new mothers will experience angst about their post-baby body, instead of enjoying, and celebrating and marveling?

The things that I no longer do:

  • I don’t pick up magazines if they have anything related to weight loss or body dissatisfaction on their covers (this includes all stories about getting the perfect butt in 5 easy moves, or 10 dinners that are 350 calories or less). And I bought A LOT of those magazines for many years.
  • I don’t watch television shows that focus on people’s weight or appearances.
  • I still read too many gossipy/pop culture web sites – and I’m working on that. For instance, in one day, 4 out of the 5 top stories trending on one of these sites were about celebrities and their baby weight (see that photo). I’m trying to stay off sites like this.

So, will you join me? Will you start spending your time reading body-positive sites like Mara Glatzel? Will you ditch the fashion sites that make you feel bad about your body, and start reading more from plus-size women who celebrate their bodies? I do believe it’s made a difference in my spirit and can for you, too.

5 Responses (Add Yours)

  • YES!! I started avoiding all those things you talk about (and more) years ago and it has had a profound impact on me (positive)!

    • Lisa Christie says:

      Me too, Karen! Between all the selfies and instagrams and tweets, etc., etc., it can be hard to block out the messages. But I avoid what I can, and I at least am no longer fooled by the diet promises of magazines and will not support their hypocracy of promoting self acceptance while consistently delivering weight loss messages.

  • Dave E, RD says:

    LOL at thigh gap. As a guy, I can tell you we do not care about how much space there is between a women’s thighs (insert sex joke if you must). All the women I have ever dated have been subconscious about this though, not sure why?

  • Barb winthrop says:

    Lisa..who are you? tell us more about yourself and relationship to GM please.I love your articles.
    BTW, I am 50 and look at thigh gap..and for the first time the other day saw a woman with one that I DID NOT think must be happier than me (usually I think thin people are) I actually didn’t find her attractive b/c of this thigh gap. (but that is still a judgement on my part).
    I will TRY to follow your suggestion to slow down on the reading and exposure of all that media re: weight , appearance etc. It will be a challenge.Great article , again.

    • Lisa Christie says:

      Hi Barb, I am the marketing manager at Green Mountain, formerly a participant. I came on board two years ago. I like writing about my own attempt to “sustain the change” after the program, and what I am learning along the way. The most important message I like to pass on is that it’s important to look for success beyond the scale – this has been an important piece for me. My bio is on the blog homepage. Thanks for reading! Please continue to provide your feedback, too!

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