Can Kindness Stop Weight Gain?


Sing, Cheer, Pray. Creating positive self talk in your head is a step toward kindness, which interrupts the cycle of self loathing – overeating – self loathing that can lead to weight gain.

The more negative self talk and self hate we engage in, the worse we feel, the more we eat to cope, the more our self-loathing grows (body and self), the more we eat to cope.

Today, let’s let our creative juices flow with out-of-the-box ideas to quiet negative self talk, decrease self-loathing, end emotional eating and stop unhealthy weight gain in its tracks.

Here are some out-of-the-box suggestions for infusing kindness into your life.


Find a song that lifts your spirits or makes you rock out or soothes your soul. One participant’s song is “Defying Gravity” from Wicked.  This is the verse that spoke to her:

Something has changed within me
Something is not the same
I’m through with playing by the rules
Of someone else’s game
Too late for second-guessing
Too late to go back to sleep
It’s time to trust my instincts
Close my eyes: and leap!


Another woman taught me this self-invented cheer:

H-E-A-L-T-H-Y – you ain’t got no alibi


This also included hands gestures, encouraged her when she was walking, and helped when she wanted to throw in the towel.


Prayers or blessings such as this one attributed to St. Francis can help, too.

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
May the rains fall soft upon your fields,
And, until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of His hand.

Check out the video of a hybrid song-cheer affirmation by Jessica, a young girl who’s got the positive self-talk thing down.

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Want to learn more and experience how kindness can make a real difference to your weight management efforts?  Join us for a special week in January about losing weight with loving kindness, featuring guest speaker Jean Fain, author of The Self-Compassion Diet.

What are you going to try to decrease negative self talk and empower your affirming self?

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