We are so hard on our bodies and just keep focusing on weight loss.
I am not talking about the ways we don’t take care of ourselves physically. I am talking about our negative self talk.
Your Inner Critic
Could I pay you large sums of money to talk to any child the way you talk to yourself? No!
Jan Chozen Bays, M.D. discusses the inner critic and suggests learning to listen for the critic. By changing the ways we talk to ourselves we can feel better, have more energy and add pleasure to our lives.
“The energy of the Inner Critic/Outer Judge can be transformed. This is possible for anyone to do. The transformed energy offer us many gifts: clarity, discernment, determination to change things that are not working optimally, and access to a storehouse of energy and creativity that can be used for good in our lives and in the world. “~Dr. Bays
I believe the first step to changing your critical voice is to notice. You can’t do a dang thing about the criticism until you recognize it. So, when you are feeling stressed, down, or funky, tune in and listen to the what you are saying. Dr. Bays suggests to listen for its favorite hurtful words:
you are TOO ___
you ALWAYS ___
you NEVER ___
You are SO ____
you SHOULD ____
you SHOULDN’T ____
Listening and noticing “helps to separate from the Inner Critic to ask if what it is saying is something that would be good for a mother to say to a child. Or would it be heard as abusive language?”
And then be ready once you recognize the hurtful words be ready to say:
Even though I feel fat, I deeply love and accept myself.
You don’t have to believe these words, you just have to start saying them, again and again to argue with the inner critic.
Can you imagine practicing kindness to you inside your head today?