1. understanding the trap
2. choosing to change
3. recognizing the “should” in my thoughts and emotions
4. releasing the “should”
5. looking inward to find my authentic self
I would contend that the more we “should” ourselves, the more rebellious we are likely to become. If I say to myself “I should go on a diet,” I immediately find myself driving to the store and buying 3 candy bars.
So instead of “shoulding” ourselves, how about operating from a place of desire, or want, or possibility? The more we take the pressure off and let go of the “should” word, the more we can come from place of exploration and experimentation.
How can you decrease the “shoulds” in your mind?