Weight Loss –The “Should”


There is something about the New Year that invites the word “should” into our hearts and minds.  “I should have de-cluttered my house last year” or “I should be thinking about weight loss as 2012 begins” or I should taking better care of myself”.

I was reading  Stepping Out of the Should Trap by Jo Holstein of Daily Good and I really liked many of her ideas. She suggests:

Inspirational idioms such as “March to the beat of your own drum” or “Forge your own path” were so alluring and seemingly simple, but I really struggled. Breaking free of the “should” trap included five big steps for me:

1. understanding the trap
2. choosing to change
3. recognizing the “should” in my thoughts and emotions
4. releasing the “should”
5. looking inward to find my authentic self

I would contend that the more we “should” ourselves, the more rebellious we are likely to become.  If I say to myself “I should go on a diet,” I immediately find myself driving to the store and buying 3 candy bars.

So instead of “shoulding” ourselves, how about operating from a place of desire, or want, or possibility?  The more we take the pressure off and let go of the “should” word, the more we can come from place of exploration and experimentation.

How can you decrease the “shoulds” in your mind?


One response to “Weight Loss –The “Should””

  1. Jaime says:

    I never heard this way of looking inward using the “should trap”. I will have to try it. Hey you never know I could lose a few pounds with this.

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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run since 1986. In addition to overseeing a professional program that helps women establish sustainable approaches to healthy living, she is a respected thought leader when it comes to managing eating, emotions and weight. She has been a voice of reason for the last three decades in helping people move away from diets, an area in which she is personally as well as professionally versed. An accomplished writer and speaker, Marsha is the author of six books, including the online course Disordered Eating in Active and Sedentary Individuals (co-authored by Karin Kratina, PhD, RD, Human Kinetics), What You Need to Know about Carbohydrates (Academy for Nutrition and Dietetics [The Academy]), What You Need to Know about Vitamin and Mineral Supplements (The Academy), and The Pregnancy Cookbook (co-authored by Donna Shields, RD, Berkeley Publishing). She has worked extensively on a national basis to educate the public about nutrition and the impact of dieting on eating behaviors, including binge eating and emotional eating. Active in many organizations helping to further the cause of health and wellness, Marsha currently serves as vice chair of the Binge Eating Disorder Association and vice president of The Center for Mindful Eating and has been active in the Association for Size Diversity and Health in support of Health at Every Size(R) principles.

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