Magical Thinking and Wishes


During this holiday season, I hear many women wishing for weight loss or not having  negative feelings about their body image.

This time of year the power of weight stigma becomes more soul crushing. Judgment based on size crumples the tender, budding esteem for which we are desperately searching. Deciding that we are not okay because of our size interrupts our ability to engage in living and we become more isolated and thus more vulnerable to depression, anxiety and feeling like we are okay in our own skin. I believe that the more wishing we do, prompted by weight stigma, the more negative our self talk becomes.

Are there ways that we can use wishing and magical thinking not to criticize, but to help of peal back the layers of some of our deepest desires for enjoyment and laughter and acceptance?

What if we thought of wishes as little tweets from the child inside of us trying to get our attention?

What if we wanted to create a bit of magic for that child in our everyday life and especially around the holidays when hurt feelings can abound?

What if we imagined a day, or an activity or a connection with an old friend that would offer our child some good old fun?

Would your magical thinking help you find music or a play or a conversation with someone from another time in your life or trip to the swimming pool or a you tube that makes you laugh?

What is a wish you have deep down that could make our child part smile?




One response to “Magical Thinking and Wishes”

  1. Sometimes our wishes just need to be listened to. It is a process to, what Byron Katie calls “loving what is.”

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

About the Author

Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

If you’re looking for an embodiment of dedication disguised as obsession, look no further. Marsha is a registered dietitian who has spent the last four decades working to help women give up dieting rules and understand how to truly take care of themselves. Her mission in life is to help women learn to enjoy eating and living well, without worries about their weight. She encourages women to embrace their love of food, which you might call being a foodie. If so, it’s appropriate because being a foodie means you pay attention when you eat. That’s a recipe made in heaven for eating well. Marsha is the President and Co-Owner of Green Mountain at Fox Run.

View Author Page