This time of year the power of weight stigma becomes more soul crushing. Judgment based on size crumples the tender, budding esteem for which we are desperately searching. Deciding that we are not okay because of our size interrupts our ability to engage in living and we become more isolated and thus more vulnerable to depression, anxiety and feeling like we are okay in our own skin. I believe that the more wishing we do, prompted by weight stigma, the more negative our self talk becomes.
Are there ways that we can use wishing and magical thinking not to criticize, but to help of peal back the layers of some of our deepest desires for enjoyment and laughter and acceptance?
What if we thought of wishes as little tweets from the child inside of us trying to get our attention?
What if we wanted to create a bit of magic for that child in our everyday life and especially around the holidays when hurt feelings can abound?
What if we imagined a day, or an activity or a connection with an old friend that would offer our child some good old fun?
Would your magical thinking help you find music or a play or a conversation with someone from another time in your life or trip to the swimming pool or a you tube that makes you laugh?
What is a wish you have deep down that could make our child part smile?