Grief and Ending Relationships Part II


Rituals help us make transitions when we experience  losses:

  • wakes
  • funerals
  • memorials/celebration of life
  • divorce celebration
  • going-away parties
  • retirement parties

Some would say that rituals clearly mark and, therefore, help with transitions. However, we don’t have rituals for a friendship that fizzles or comes to an abrupt end, whether you choose to end it or your friend does. And often these losses can be very difficult to recover from. 

Think about what kind of support will be helpful to you.

You may have found it’s important to choose just the right friend or family member or even a stranger to talk it out or cry with when you are experiencing loss or grief.

What might you want from that person?

  •  Simply listen and commiserate
  • Talk sense to you
  • Help you see your role in the ending
  • Make the other person into a creep

Grief and sadness are a natural part of losing someone from our lives.

Big feelings can be an invitation to use food to cope.  Binge eating can be the result of not knowing how to process the grief.  Moving from your feelings into your thinking can be  first step.

Questions can invite you to move towards thinking.

  • What have I had  to learn/unlearn/relearn as a result of the loss?
  • What voids do I need to fill?
  • What routines and habits no longer served me?

What have you had to learn or unlearn from a relationship ending?





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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run since 1986. In addition to overseeing a professional program that helps women establish sustainable approaches to healthy living, she is a respected thought leader when it comes to managing eating, emotions and weight. She has been a voice of reason for the last three decades in helping people move away from diets, an area in which she is personally as well as professionally versed. An accomplished writer and speaker, Marsha is the author of six books, including the online course Disordered Eating in Active and Sedentary Individuals (co-authored by Karin Kratina, PhD, RD, Human Kinetics), What You Need to Know about Carbohydrates (Academy for Nutrition and Dietetics [The Academy]), What You Need to Know about Vitamin and Mineral Supplements (The Academy), and The Pregnancy Cookbook (co-authored by Donna Shields, RD, Berkeley Publishing). She has worked extensively on a national basis to educate the public about nutrition and the impact of dieting on eating behaviors, including binge eating and emotional eating. Active in many organizations helping to further the cause of health and wellness, Marsha currently serves as vice chair of the Binge Eating Disorder Association and vice president of The Center for Mindful Eating and has been active in the Association for Size Diversity and Health in support of Health at Every Size(R) principles.

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