Low Self Esteem Getting You Down?

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Low Self Esteem Getting You Down? Think about Yourself in a Positive Way!


Afraid that you'll sound like you're tooting your own horn? Not to worry. It gets easier once you put the spotlight on positive behaviors and let yourself feel good about them.

The braggart is competitive – comparing herself to others. She might show a lack of awareness of others' attributes and accomplishments. This is the person we would say is “self-centered” or “ego-centric.” That's not you.

Here are some #gm KISS(Keep It Simple Sweetheart) small beginnings:   Count the positive and mentally pat yourself on the back.
• Notice results of assertiveness – what's different about the responses you get from others?
• Take charge of your feelings by thinking these positive thoughts and let those feelings show
• Take the words “enjoy yourself” to the limit – truly enjoy and appreciate yourself
• Tell someone about a situation you handled successfully – face to face, email, phone, Twitter
Mention to someone that something you'd been uncertain about turned out well
• You can even give yourself credit for hitting all the traffic lights green
• If you hit all the traffic lights red, use the time to relax and make that a positive
• Use your affirmations

 

You are your most important audience – look in the mirror. Check your posture. Does it communicate that you care about yourself? Is your head on straight? (Carrying your head off to an angle communicates ambivalence.) Let your happiness show with an easy smile and your satisfaction show in your stride and posture. This is assertive body language. In this way you'll influence the way others see and interact with you and that in turn will add to positive outcomes.


About you as your audience – keep the critic quiet. If positive thoughts don't pop up naturally, sit down a minute and generate a list of three or four positive things. If it takes longer than a minute, stay with it. Maybe you'll have to think of your mother, sister, or friend's attributes that you like and see those in yourself.


Psychologists argue about whether changing our thoughts lead to changes in behavior or whether changing our behavior will cause our thoughts and attitude to follow along. I say it goes both ways. I encourage you to take this two-pronged approach. Notice results.


Radiate. Congratulate!


What is one thing you appreciate about yourself? What would a friend say about you that you would like to hold onto and remember?
 


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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run since 1986. In addition to overseeing a professional program that helps women establish sustainable approaches to healthy living, she is a respected thought leader when it comes to managing eating, emotions and weight. She has been a voice of reason for the last three decades in helping people move away from diets, an area in which she is personally as well as professionally versed. An accomplished writer and speaker, Marsha is the author of six books, including the online course Disordered Eating in Active and Sedentary Individuals (co-authored by Karin Kratina, PhD, RD, Human Kinetics), What You Need to Know about Carbohydrates (Academy for Nutrition and Dietetics [The Academy]), What You Need to Know about Vitamin and Mineral Supplements (The Academy), and The Pregnancy Cookbook (co-authored by Donna Shields, RD, Berkeley Publishing). She has worked extensively on a national basis to educate the public about nutrition and the impact of dieting on eating behaviors, including binge eating and emotional eating. Active in many organizations helping to further the cause of health and wellness, Marsha currently serves as vice chair of the Binge Eating Disorder Association and vice president of The Center for Mindful Eating and has been active in the Association for Size Diversity and Health in support of Health at Every Size(R) principles.

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