Changing Thinking: Scrutinize Your Dissatisfaction


disillusionmentDisillusionment can be heartbreaking, especially when we’re disillusioned about a reality that never happened. You imagined yourself somehow different: all-achieving, in control, showing no signs of aging and, gee, it didn’t turn out that way. You feel let down by, what? By your imagined reality?

Pay Attention to Your Self-Talk

The first step towards uncovering your personal beliefs is to start noticing your thinking. How are you talking to yourself? Would you talk to anyone else the way you talk to yourself? Do you even know what lines of chatter you are listening to?

[quote]Some years ago someone said quite off-handedly that there was a big difference between what you want to be and what you want to do.[/quote]

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Support Healthy Self Talk & Choice with Your Enough-O-Meter[end-div]That notion has resided close to the front of my mind for over thirty years. Oh, I might want to be as strong as I used to be, as effortlessly as it was back then. BUT, I don’t want to do what’s required to achieve the desired results so am stuck with the real reality.

It’s my choice whether to be unhappy about my current status or whether to change my imagined reality or the pictures in my head.

Here’s the Lesson:

The greater the number of and the greater the disparity between expectations and reality, the greater the likelihood that you’ll establish an emotional cache of disillusionment, disappointment, dissatisfaction. Some might call it a feeling of chronic despair.

How to Close the Gap Between Your Expectations and Reality

You can change the pictures your carry around in your head. This is a powerful #gmKISS strategy that will help you decrease the disparity between your expectations and what is happening now. This process allows you move into the present moment and to appreciate what you have. Gathering gratitude lightens the load…of dissatisfaction, and even despair.

Scrutinize your mental archives as you lie back in your warm bath or hot tub. Eyes closed. Inward focus. Find those stored unmet expectations and sort them out. Are there some you now want to commit to? Are there others that need to be deleted and sent to the trash bin? Are your thoughts and images supporting you to take the actions you want to take?

What is one thing you can do or say that can help you let go of self-dissatisfaction? What image can you hold in your head and heart that supports you here and now?

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Marsha Hudnall, MS, RDN, CD

Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run since 1986. In addition to overseeing a professional program that helps women establish sustainable approaches to healthy living, she is a respected thought leader when it comes to managing eating, emotions and weight. She has been a voice of reason for the last three decades in helping people move away from diets, an area in which she is personally as well as professionally versed. An accomplished writer and speaker, Marsha is the author of six books, including the online course Disordered Eating in Active and Sedentary Individuals (co-authored by Karin Kratina, PhD, RD, Human Kinetics), What You Need to Know about Carbohydrates (Academy for Nutrition and Dietetics [The Academy]), What You Need to Know about Vitamin and Mineral Supplements (The Academy), and The Pregnancy Cookbook (co-authored by Donna Shields, RD, Berkeley Publishing). She has worked extensively on a national basis to educate the public about nutrition and the impact of dieting on eating behaviors, including binge eating and emotional eating. Active in many organizations helping to further the cause of health and wellness, Marsha currently serves as vice chair of the Binge Eating Disorder Association and vice president of The Center for Mindful Eating and has been active in the Association for Size Diversity and Health in support of Health at Every Size(R) principles.

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