Let little gems be your big rewards. Savor the surprise of tasting the food at tonight's party and enjoying every bite and noticing when you have had enough. Savor the surprise of achieving your fitness goals for five days in a row with nary an internal nag. Savor the surprise of doing even very small things that you had only hoped to do but now that you have, you realize you hadn't really believed you could. This is changing your thinking and focusing on what works.
Let these surprise successes build one on the other, as success is known to do. That's right: success leads to success. You know that because you've experienced it, though you might not have noticed. We casually think that: If I can do it, anyone can, so it's nothing special. We're often wrong about that. Often others cannot do what we easily do. No matter. This is about you, not about the elusive “them,” who are often our focus – we think we know what they must be thinking.
One surprise might be that you can pull away from this mind reading and be attentive to what you are thinking. Find some way to track your successes – be it a mental catalog or preferably, a handy little diary that you can unobtrusively whip out of your purse in a moment. You'll be surprised to look over your notes and see the accumulation of your big and little successes. If you like counting things, well, even if you don't like counting things, you might find this a worthwhile endeavor.
While you might not be at all interested in keeping a food diary, you might find it emotionally rewarding to keep a list of the little behavioral surprises you gave yourself just as a way of keeping track of yourself. Reminders to yourself of important things to remember not that cathedral you saw in Rome, but the time you took just one cookie and felt quite satisfied or the joyful moment that you want to hold on to. These small efforts might help you when you're in danger of falling back into patterns that offered no surprises.
This #gmKISS strategy could also be called mindful moment. Know that it is in the words you choose and the moments that you focus on that create your internal experience. Give yourself the gift of noticing what is working for you.
What surprises did you notice today?