When my kids were young, I was faced with an ironic challenge for a dietitian. My son’s definite predilection for sugar and adamant rejection of vegetables, whole grain bread and milk took me on at many meals and snacks.
So when I read that researchers had found a positive connection between sugar and children’s growth, I thought again about how intuition really does serve us well.
The study (as reported in BBC News and which I haven’t read the original of) showed that kids who had a higher preference for sugar also had higher levels of a chemical associated with bone growth. The researchers said it suggests a link between the preference for sweets and biological need.
This somewhat reassured me that I didn’t do my son major harm by letting his sweet tooth win in many a situation. Not that I really ‘let’ it win; I didn’t always have a lot of choice unless I wanted to get into a battle that would end up making him feel bad about himself, to say nothing of how it’d make me feel.
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But I did my best to help him build his taste for other foods while remaining a normal eater. I often relied on Ellyn Satter’s division of responsibility in feeding children to guide me.
- The parent is responsible for what, when and where.
- The child is responsible for how much and whether.
Basically, Ellyn encourages parents to set up the structure around eating — the foods kids have to choose from on a regular basis; whether they’ll eat on the run or they can depend on regularly-scheduled breakfasts, lunches, dinners, snacks; and whether they’ll be seated and focusing on the food instead of watching tv or playing on the computer.
After that, it’s up to the kid. The bottom line is whether they’re hungry or not. Great way to build intuitive eating skills — awareness of and reliance on hunger as a cue for eating.
I talked to Ellyn when he was very young because when it came to the ‘what,’ I questioned whether I should just keep sugary foods out of the house. She reassured me that if I presented my son with other foods without demonizing the sugar-rich foods, he’d start to accept the others.
It took a while, but he did. Now, at 18 (as I said, it took a while), he pleasantly surprises me by the foods he’ll try and the foods he likes. In particular, he’s come to love the spice-rich foods of Indian, Mexican and Lebanese cuisine. And he’s a healthy guy who does great in school, plays a number of sports and is pretty happy overall.
It’s enough to warm a mother’s heart, even if she’s not a dietitian.
photo by JadeGordon