I just kissed my high school senior as he left for his first day of his last year of school (next year, it’s college, not ‘school’!). That’s after putting my daughter on a plane last weekend, off to her second year of college. And we’re taking our Belgian ‘son’ (my daughter stayed with him and his family for a year in high school) to send him back to Europe for his first year of college (or whatever they call it in Belgium). It is definitely a week for endings and beginnings. And, for me, the best way to weather the change is to accept it and make the best of it. I could find a lot of things to be sad about, but instead, I’m looking at the positive — how I choose to look at life as much as possible.
This time mirrors the ups and downs we all go through in life, with just about everything. Certainly, with how we do in taking care of ourselves, trying to live a healthy lifestyle and be the best we can. When it comes to healthy weights, if we can take a step back and be more accepting — loving ourselves and our bodies for what they are instead of aiming for unrealistic goals and taking care of ourselves in that manner — we’d surely find healthy weight loss if it’s in our cards (that is, if we are indeed at unhealthy weights) and we’d definitely find greater peace with eating and physical activity and life.
It mirrors, too, the change of seasons we’re facing right now in Vermont. Fall has come early, it seems. Cool mornings, moderate days, cool evenings foreshadow the time most of us kinda dread until it’s here — winter. But when it gets here, I for one find it lovely. It’s just getting there — the change — that hurts a bit. Accepting what is would help me get rid of the hurt, I am sure.
Karin Kratina, a consultant for our healthy lifestyle program, and a great thinker in this area, has sent in one of her periodic e-letters a list of quotes that help us with acceptance. I share a few here, and encourage you to visit Karin’s website for more great insight into healthy living.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
“Each individual woman’s body demands to be accepted on its own terms.” ~Gloria Steinem
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” ~E.E. Cummings
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~E.E. Cummings
“Is life not a hundred times too short for us to stifle ourselves.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche
“Once conform, once do what others do because they do it, and a kind of lethargy steals over all the finer senses of the soul.” ~Michel Eyquem de Montaigne