My daughter first looked at me strangely when I mentioned to her that her “I feel fat” thoughts really weren’t about her body. I explained that fat is not a feeling; instead, when we think we feel fat, we’re usually distracting ourselves from something else that’s bothering us. For many of us, negative body image often has to do with feelings of insecurity — we’re worrying about how we’re falling short in some area.
To the rescue: Tips from one of my favorite e-letters — that from Annette Colby. She recommends we try the following tips when fears and self-doubt threaten to overwhelm us.
Recognize the fear and doubt within you. The first step to overcoming doubt is to be willing to face the situation. By being honest and admitting that you have doubts can you seek alternatives.
Understand that it is all right to have doubt. What matters most is that you love yourself enough to overcome your doubt by taking calculated risks.
3. Explore Your Fears
Take out a piece of paper and write down a list of your fears. Explore your doubt, examine your fear, and look at the areas in your life where they get the upper hand.
4. Examine Your Excuses
Write down your reasons for not pursuing a personal challenge or moving forward on something important to you
5. Say Good Bye
Write a goodbye letter to your doubt, then bury it, burn it, or release it in some other creative way.
6. Mirror Mirror On the Wall
When your doubt pops up, go to the mirror and talk to yourself. Positive talk isn’t the entire answer, but without we haven’t got a chance of success. People are more successful when they talk to themselves in a reassuring, compassionate, and loving way.
7. Build Self-Esteem
Keep reminding yourself that you are valuable, that you have worth, and that your life matters.
8. Take Positive Action
Take positive action in the direction of your dreams. You can put doubt in it’s place when you take action on the activities and goals that are most important to you.
9. What’s the Best that Could Happen
Imagine the best possible outcome. Practice allowing yourself to envision yourself being the person you want to be.
10. Take Care of Yourself
Take some action every day that allows you to feel better about yourself.
No matter what self-doubt is blocking our way to — whether it be successful weight loss or going after our dream job — these tips can help us move forward. The bottom line is believing in ourselves because our minds are the most powerful tool we have to help us achieve our dreams.