I started thinking more seriously about that term “making the connection.” Excluding travel agents, it’s not a phrase that I hear others use often – I think Oprah uses it in someway (never have seen her show or read her magazine, no kidding), and I use the phrase to describe part of the process of getting your life in balance…but what does it actually mean in words (I know in feelings, but don’t think I’d be able to describe it).
I did the internet-pokey, and came across a discussion about handling stress that sheds some light on what “making a connection” connotes to me – I found it interesting and enlightening, and hope you do to.
Apparently, those that handle stress better than others have something called “hardiness” by psychologist that gives them the ability to ride through stress. The personality factors that stand out in stress-hardy people are love of challenge, commitment and control. In the following descriptions of each factor, I find that “making the connection” is well defined. Here is the list for your review.
Having a strong commitment to self, work, family, and their personal values. A strong sense of commitment allows people to see problems through without being too disrupted by stress.
- Having a sense of control over their lives. They know they cannot control every detail of their lives (for instance, their supervisor’s personality), but they see where they do have control, such as their reaction to their supervisor’s personality.
- Generally seeing change as a challenge rather than a threat. Change is inevitable. When change is viewed as a threat, stress levels rise. By viewing change as a challenge, stress-hardy people avoid the stress associated with threats.
- Participating in activities that promote creativity and their own uniqueness.
- Having a strong network of support and close relationships. Believing you are alone in the world makes the effects of everyday stress much worse.
These descriptions are found multiple places on the internet, so giving proper credit is a little hard.
If you’re interested in this topic, you can search under "hardiness" or “stress hardiness.”