"Beauty radiates from within when you’re kind of heart
and full of love and happiness." Roxanne Lowit, Photographer
I saw this quote on the email signature of a colleague who works with eating disordered clients. You don’t have to have an eating disorder to relate. Just about any woman in our society gets the point. But when it comes to the struggle with eating and weight, we know it’s often kicked off by concerns about how we look to others, or at the least, exacerbated by those concerns. What we often don’t realize, though, is that our own opinions about our bodies – how we look, whether we’re the exact ‘right’ shape, our lack of size and self acceptance – may have more impact on our struggle. It’s whether we buy into the beauty myth. Another favorite quote that applies: “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” (Eleanor Roosevelt)
I can remember an old boyfriend who was so handsome. After a few years with him, I couldn’t see the handsomeness anymore. When I looked at him, I only saw his inside, which wasn’t so pretty.
It’s easy to write about how we need to look inside to see the true beauty in folks. And it’s hard to keep those thoughts top of mind in today’s world. Still, it’s worth the effort.